He has said he will buy some its just a matter of when really. We are meant to be having a chat Sunday at drop off so will talk to ex then.

As for swimming lessons. I can't even afford to send all 3 hence the jackets so no I don't think it's his responsibility to pay for them. They get there school lessons and I try and teach them when we use SILs pool so unfort that will have to do for now so the jackets are important (not a life saving device I know, I am always in the water with them)

I'm just tired of fighting with ex and DH, they don't get along because ex never gave DH a chance when he came on the scene and it has lead to a lot of tension 4 years down the track. Drives me mental. Ex has just gotten engaged and I can't imagine having the se conflict with his new fiancé so much that I reached out and messaged her congrats and open communication lines between us and she said thanks and is great full and keen to get along thankfully!! Just wish the men would take a leaf from our book but oh so stubborn.

DH is amazing with the girls but I'm sure he does get frustrated (as do i) that we are more often then not the safe and discipline parents where as ex is Disneyland daddy and all the fun stuff.

Ahh anyway I guess I'm going to go with my heart and my kids will always come first. DH will have to get his knickers out of a twist. He understands it, he really does ex just frustrates the pooh out of him.