If Mother's Day is on a Sunday, and your child sees their father every Sunday . . . .

[Amity]

My kids go from 9-5 on Mother's Day/Father's Day. It's Court orders. We have other arrangements for birthdays/Easter/Christmas etc.

[nothing2lose]

I have the same arrangement as Divvy. Also court ordered.

If it means a lot to you, perhaps you can negotiate with your ex so that he has her another day (eg. public holiday) as "make-up" contact...Maybe even this Easter Monday or Tuesday. Of course, it depends on your relationship.

If you dont have court orders, perhaps she could be sick that day

[Gigi]

before X got his current job, we could swap as needed. but with this new job, working public holidays, and rostered on every Saturday, working so late that his pickups are more like 7pm (instead of 5pm) - i feel there is no room for leeway anymore.

there are no court orders

we went from working out a compromise (when he was unemployed), making pickups and drop offs child friendly times, to now, which is "these are the ONLY times i don't work, so i HAVE to see bilby then or not at all" and the dropoffs/pickups suit him, not bilby or me.

we had a very uncomfortable time last year, trying to have a combined birthday and xmas day with the three of us (thinking it would be nice for bilby to have both her parents there). i doubt we'll repeat that, did not go well.

i think i should take this issue to our next combined contact mediation counselling session, i just can't get my head around this new way (no leeway, due to his tight work schedule, being on call etc).