Interesting article on Family Court and moving away from your children's other parent

[nothing2lose]

When parental relocation leads to a 'tug-of-love' legal headache

[*LittleMissSummer*]

If both parents have shared custody then its unfair of one parent to move interstate and automatically think they can take the kids. Just as assuming the children will share holidays with one parent. Its not 'shared' then.

If i was to seperate from my DP i would want to stay well away from the courts and work it out ourselves.

[Traveller]

I can only imagine how hard it would be if DH and I ever split up. He would want the kids to be near him, but I can also see that he would want to move back to Scotland for family support. And whilst I would want the kids to have a relationship with both parents I wouldn't want them moving back to Scotland for part of the year. I can't imagine it is ever easy knowing that you cannot move interstate of internationally without the agreement of your ex.

[LimeSlice]

If both parents have shared custody then its unfair of one parent to move interstate and automatically think they can take the kids. Just as assuming the children will share holidays with one parent. Its not 'shared' then.

If i was to seperate from my DP i would want to stay well away from the courts and work it out ourselves.

It is a very difficult circumstance to be in, and not as clear cut as you seem to think. It is perhaps something you can only understand if you have gone through it yourself.

[Phteven]

I imagine that if I broke up with DH I would be tempted to move closer to my siblings so I had more support/help. I assume that DH would want to be closer to his family too.

We share a mutual allergy to paying lawyers (no offense Div ) so I would hope that would help us find some kind of compromise.

[*LittleMissSummer*]

It is a very difficult circumstance to be in, and not as clear cut as you seem to think. It is perhaps something you can only understand if you have gone through it yourself.

Of course. It is definitely one of those things i can sit here and say how i would do things but until in that situation i don't know especially with different circumstances.

My parents had shared custody of me and my younger sister but with what happened with my sister there was no way he was getting anywhere near us.

[jacklicky]

My DH's ex move their kids 4hrs away....still within the state and there was nothing DH could do about it.....they said to him he wasn't allowed interfere with 'her new relationship'. They have no access agreement but have always discussed visitation (where she always had the last say). Now he gets to see them 5-6times a year if he is lucky....and he gets to drive 2hrs each way to pick them up each time he does!

[Astrid]

It is a tough one. DH grew up with his mum in Tas and his dad in QLD. He actually liked it. He had stability during the year and then had a big trip each year to stay with his dad. Yes, not having his dad in his daily life did suck in its own way, but for their family it was a custody arrangement that worked very well.

[Amity]

I'll come back to this. However I ran a relocation case in January which is now going to be one of the precedent cases in relocation law.

It's always a difficult situation.

[Ms_Fi]

I moved my kids away from their biological dad from England to here and it was the best thing I ever did. At least now there's a good reason why he doesn't see them rather than when he was 20mins and too lazy to bother.

There's no way now I'd moved away from DD2 stand in dad. He's the best thing that ever happened to her and even 40mins drive is too far for them.

I'm a strong believer in doing what's right for the children and if that means a long distance move then that's what needs to happen.

Sushee - I can't begin to imagine what it was like for you leaving your son behind. I hope you're still able to have a good relationship with him dispute the distance xx

[sushee]

Ms_Fi, thank you. I do talk to him on Skype often (4 - 5 times a week for an hour at a time) and I see him every school holidays and as much as possible in between too, so the relationship is as good as it can possibly be under the circumstances.