Single mothers can definitely do it alone. My sister became a single mother at 18yrs old. There are obvious drawbacks to being a single parent, but you need to focus on the positives - and if you think about it long and hard you will see that there are some positives. You will be fine.
I'm in a pretty similar situation. My ex and I seem determined to ruin eachother via text wars. I have found that if you can stay quiet, they usually come to terms with things on their own and will eventually contact you. I refuse to believe that a person can live life without thinking about their child everyday, even if he's never sees her.
To me it sounds like he is trying to be a good guy by contacting you, but then he gets mixed up in his own world and fails at the good guy routine.
I'll tell you what, you're probably feeling pretty low because of the fact that having your little one is the start of a new chapter that you have to go through 'alone'. In reality though, you'll never be alone again...your baby will love you without question for the rest of your life!!!!
Don't worry, you sound very intelligent and devoted to your daughter, you're going to get through this and raise a beautiful, healthy, good person. The reward is in knowing that you've taken the best parts of yourself and the best parts of your ex and made a perfect little human being.
Yes, single parents struggle - but so do many, many couples with a new baby. It's an adjustment either way. You will hear lots of vents in here, but relationship breakdowns suck universally, of course a baby in the picture does make it harder but hopefully that won't last forever.
There are plenty of couples that struggle in the same way a single parent does - financially, special needs children can add stress etc etc etc and imho having a partner doesn't necesarily make it easier. Not all relationships you see are great ones...or even good ones
So here's my (quick) story - I don't think it's all bad!
Single by the time bubs was 5 months (wish it was even sooner in retrospect!), dd was a fairly easy baby. I lived with dad for awhile and moved out when she was 12 months.
I didn't lose too much of a social life, I didn't drink till I was 21 so I wasn't missing out on pubs, DD came to most of the 21sts I went to, I took her pretty much everywhere and at 17 she is (I believe) a very independent girl because of that.
I met a group of other sole parents and we had a great time at each others houses playing cards and having drinks with the kids all asleep in the next room. Babysitting here and there when we needed it.
I worked since dd was about 12 months old, I ran my own business and it went so well I left f/t work and had 2 more babies.
I bought a house 3 years ago, all by my liddle self (well my parents helped me get over the line with the deposit!), I own my car outright.
Looking back myself and my friends had our own struggles but that didn't have much to do with having a partner or not. I did have a large and close group of friends and THAT made all the difference in the world.
I'm struggling a bit financially now, but so are lots of people. It's not all bad - but it is what you make it
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