My husband is leaving me for another woman. (LONG)

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

Hugs to you. While he's pretending to be the good guy, get him to sign the house over to you. After all, that's what he wants for DD, didn't he say? Just don't want you to be homeless in 3 months cos of him.

And I agree on the legal advice.

[goddessofdawn]

Yes I'm going to submit Consent Orders with us both agreeing that I get the house - I just hope the court will approve it.
The house isn't for me - it's for our daughter, so she doesn't lose the stability of the family home and also, I'm not working. And I'll be her primary carer.
Hope that'll be enough. I also worked and paid it off with him before we had our daughter.

[Trillian]

What an entitled mother-****er! I would NOT be tolerating that! He does NOT get to choose to leave your marriage, yet still treat you as if you were his wife by staying over that often and 'keeping' you by supporting you in that way. He definitely wants his cake and be able to eat it too and no way should you stand for that. What happens when his bit of sex on the side gets sick of the arrangement? How will that affect you and your DD? You need to get legal advice now, and don't trust a single word he says to you - this will only work as long as it's working for HIM because afterall, you only found out about this because you confronted him on it.

[goddessofdawn]

Ok so he's no longer sleeping here!
Still wasn't easy for me to fall asleep last night, though. Old habits, I guess.

Can I apply for parenting payment (single mothers pension) immediately now?
Am I able to get it before our assets have been divided and before consent orders submitted?

[~clover~]

Yes. Ring them now & update your information & they'll send you the forms. I'm pretty sure it'll take a few weeks to process, so the sooner you call the better.

ETA; You may be able to apply online?