My husband is leaving me for another woman. (LONG)

[Calluna]

You sound like you are in a really good place. That's fantastic. I hope it lasts and the ups are more frequent than the downs.
If you ever need to talk, even just scream at something or pour everything out on a page - please know that I'm here. I have been there and I will not judge you.

You are absolutely right, you CAN handle this by yourself. (Although just because you can doesn't mean you have to. )
xxx

[goddessofdawn]

If you ever need to talk, even just scream at something or pour everything out on a page - please know that I'm here. I have been there and I will not judge you.
xxx

That's so lovely of you! Thank you! I will if I ever need to!
Everyone here has been so supportive and I really appreciate that, more than you could ever know.

I think the key to my "success" was changing my mindset.
I was making myself really unhappy by thinking about him and the woman, what they were doing, imagining scenarios... that kind of thing. You can imagine how that made me feel!
I couldn't keep functioning that way.

Then someone said to me - focus your thoughts and energy on those who deserve it, i.e. your daughtr and yourself. And it was as simple as that - not easy, but simple.
Dale Carnegie was right - it isn't what happens to you that makes you unhappy, it's what you think about!

So whenever I start getting stuck in old thought habits, i just re-focus. e.g. This weekend he & the woman have gone away together on holiday, and I haven't given it a second thought. Have just kept busy with DD and am doing things that make us happy! normally I would have been a mess.

I just think of the future, and how DD will one day ask me the truth (when she is much older and when it's appropriate to tell her the whole story) and I want her to be proud of me. That I didn't fall apart, I survived and more than that, that I made sure she and I were both happy.

Thank you for checking in on me. xxxx