Ahhh BluJella - and I'm sorry you're in this predicament.

I do think that you finding legal representation ASAP is a priority here, as the advice will be for your circumstances. Earlier started, sooner planned. IMO.

Leaving any relationship is difficult, but to actually make that decision takes a lot of strength, so well done on that respect. I hope you're looking at your own mental health issues as well, and giving yourself a little time to relax and pamper.

Good luck.