so it's not the maintenance at all! it's the deadbeat moron who is being a control freak

lots of them around too

i guess if he signs adoption papers, he is signing over all parental rights as well as the responsibilities - he's hedging his bets - your kidlet is still very dependent on you now - when he grows up a bit, he may not have the same needs from you, and deadbeat can become the "good time" dad - cos you're not going to turn around and tell him what an ass his dad was when he was little...

people like that annoy me - but it's nothing to do with the c'link/csa side of things - it's the control freak thing!