Once again..not sure if this is in the right spor...if not feel free to move it mods

Background info ... ever since DP and i have been together DSD's mother has been asking for more child support, as long as ive known him he has always been paying more then CSA ask...some of you that are familiar with my story will know my frustrations with DP's ex

Currently DSD is in preschool, starting 'big school' in 2010. Now i thought this might be a huge financial burden on DP's Ex (Lets call her "S") so suggested to DP we offer to change their child support arrangment (he thought it was a great idea)...being that it is a private arrangment this wouldnt be an issue provided both parties agree.

I suggested we cease the weekly cash deposits into S's bank account and instead would foot the bill for ALL School fees, uniforms, excersions, extra curricula activities etc ... i get a text saying "no thanks im fine paying for all of Miss K's schooling" ... im trying to HELP her, i know that it would sum up to A LOT more then the Child Support we are paying plus it would directly be benefitting Miss K?

On average how much would you pay for school, sports, uniforms etc per year?

Ah well, you can lead a horse to water...