Hi everyone

Thank you for your advice. I have consulted a clinician from a Family Conflict Resolution Centre and am on a waiting list to commence negiotating a parenting plan if XP will engage otherwise we will approach the Family Law Court to determine the care arrangements for DS. I am satisified to know that the Family Conflict Resolution Centre will act in the best interests of DS as I disagree with XP's thought that he can commence overnight access when DS is three months old and my understanding from researching other cases is that overnight access may or may not occur when DS is 12 months old. It is my belief that the attachment that DS will develop with me must not be disrupted from an early age and that he must build an attachment with XP over a period of time and I believe that 12 months is appropriate for overnight access to occur for DS as he will commence building attachments with other individuals when he is over 6 months. Sadly XP's expectations are too great at this point of time and hopefully he will recognise the clinician's valuable input at the Family Conflict Resolution Centre regarding his son's best interests so we do not have to pursue this matter through the Family Law Court. I have no concerns about his ability to parent but I want DS to have the opportunity to develop as normal as possible particularly in terms of attachment as that is so significant and shapes the way he will develop psychologically. I will certainly consult legal advice in terms of obtaining a residency order.
Thank you so much for all your thoughts and advice