The rings..

[foreva*your*mummy]

Honestly, it was the type of relationship where you really hope you will never see that person ever again. Its not really just about a holiday, I'm struggling to raise 4 kids alone with no help at all from their father, not even CSA that I am entitled too. The holiday isn't just about a holiday, its taking my kids back to the other side of the country to see all their friends & family that we left behind & to spend time with their father. Again, with no help from him to do so. He's even telling me he doesn't want to see them, so who knows if that'll happen.

I don't mind keeping them for the girls, but I'm also wondering whats more important? A piece of metal & a few rocks, or spending time with their father & family.


I still don't think I could wear them if I had them made into something else. The idea makes me feel sick

That is really sad, in the end you have to decide what feels right for you. If selling them is what you need to do there is no shame in that. I cant imagine what it would be like rasing 4 kids alone. If you need the money you do what you have too to get by.

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

Sell them. Enjoy your holiday. Better than travelling to Mordor to throw them into the pit of doom where they belong, that way your travelling expenses won't even be paid and it is quite a perilous trip.

FWIW, I would rather my mother sold her jewellery than gave me a reminder of the abuse she suffered while trying to live with my father.

[Phteven]

I think you may as well sell them. If they don't bring you any good feelings why would they make your daughters feel good?
Don't feel like you have to spend the money taking your children to visit their father. Would it be better spent on educational expenses? A holiday you really want to take? A high yield savings account?

[Livinthedream]

Sell them and spend the money on something for YOU!
You bloody earned it.
Do something for your self hun.