I'm sure you are stressed at the moment but you have made a decision that is right for you. It is wonderful that both your Mum and sister are supportive. It can be scary but I don't think you will regret it. My DS provides me with endless joy (except for the poopy nappies!) and I am sure your little bundle will do the same.
The people on BB are fantastic. Very supportive and can answer any questions as many of them have been exactly where you are.
I agree with the others that the father will have to support the child legally. He is obviously very shocked at your news (I am assuming he is young for some reason, maybe because he is acting a bit childishly IMO. Sorry if I am wrong!) and may come around to the idea of being a dad once he gets used to it. If you are not concerned about your safety etc around him (which it sounds like your not) then please give him a chance once he absorbs the news properly. He may turn out to be a good dad once given the chance. However, looking into your legal options is also a very good thing to do. Once you have the knowledge, you can apply it as needed.
Enjoy the rest of your pregnancy and hope to see you on here often.
If you are interested, you might want to join your Belly Buddies group. They are ladies who are all due around the same time as you so can provide extra support if needed.
Last edited by Chocaholic; July 29th, 2008 at 02:13 PM.
: missed a word
Just want to say thanks for all the advice - i know he has legal obligations toward the child, i just haven't decided yet whether i want that from him especially if he decides he doesn't want anything to do with me or the child. I mean if he wants to be as childish and self centred as he is at the moment, i don't know whether i want him involved. Since i told him about the pregnancy, all he has been doing is raving on about his feelings, he doesn't seem to care about how i feel or even want to listen to my feelings. I know that this will be hard and i may change my mind further on during the pregnancy but at the moment while trying to keep the stress levels low - i have to take a non caring attitude.
BTW, he's 42 and i'm nearly 23 so it's probably his one and only chance to have a kid.
Once again, thanks
Hi alleykat and welcome to BB!! I'm sure you'll find a lot of help and advice here. Congratulations on your precious baby!! I'm sorry about the situation with the father but in the end he is the one who is losing out. As the other's have said he has to support you financially and it is also a baby's right to be supported financially by both parents I think so don't feel bad if you decide to make sure he does that
I hope so - it's just tough at the moment trying to get my head around the fact that i'm raising a kid alone - my mum raised myself and my 2 sisters alone cause my dad died when i was 9 but at least he was there for the beginning. i'm just so scared and confused - i don't want to say anything to him that i may regret and i don't want him to regret his decision but the way he is acting at the moment is really driving me bonkers - he is totally thinking of himself not anyone else or their feelings.
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