Oh hunny that really sucks about your sister and your best friend. Tell them that there is no other option and you understand their right to have an opinion but that you would prefer that they be supportive of you in YOUR decision.
If they are decent people who love you, they will come around. Give them some time.
I feel incredibly lucky to have a family like I do and the friends that I have because my support network will be great. It does not mean it will be easy for me. I'm sh*t scared still. But I know I'll survive. and you will too
Do what you think is best for your baby and others will come along and help you if they truly care about you, you'll see.
And to answer your earlier question, 7 days gestation is the same as 3 weeks along. If you were only 7 days along, theoretically you wouldn't have even done the deed yet and wouldn't be pregnant yet so the test could never have been positive.
I hope you feel better soon, and I am here to talk any time.
I had a lot of people who had the same attitude "i.e. have an abortion, if I were you I would have an abortion, get rid of it, have an abortion or never talk to me again". It was pretty tough especially when you can feel all those changes your body is making. It is a very tough job being a mum too. Most of those people who said those things to me when I reminded them after they were gushing over my son were like "I can't believe I said that, I'm sorry, I love him" and some people just werent having around.
It is really tough. I went to counselling at work and they didnt help a lot but I wonder if you accessed help through a pregnancy related service such as family planning they might be able to offer a bit more assistance. ie. Talk through your options, help you plan for baby.etc.
Hang in there, be strong, we're all here for u too
Mel
xox
I hope you don't mind my posting in here, I am not a single mum and never have been, but if my sister or BFF came to me and told me she was preg I wouldn't dream of telling her to terminate.
There is no doubt in the world that parenthood is the most challenging thing you can do in life and I take my hat off to every single parent, be it mum or dad, for getting through it on their own, but I tell you it is the most rewarding thing you can do in life! Each and everyday you can be proud of yourself and your little person.
I personally would be going back to both your sister and BFF and tell them a termination is not an option, you are having your baby and would like their support regardless of what they feel about the situation or the father! If there is no luck there then I'd be looking for people who will support you and your decision because they are the people that are truely thinking about YOU!
I wish you all the very best with the road ahead, all the streghth to get through the hard days and hope your bub's father comes around soon.
Always remember we are all stronger than we realise, you'll suprise yourself with how strong you truely are and can get through anything thats thrown at you.
Oh and I believe if bub is 1 week gest. that makes you 3 weeks preg, still early on, but you've gotta start somewhere dear!
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