A relative of mine has forever been coming to the rescue of her adult kids and still does! At ages 45 & 40 she still bails them out
Mr 45 won't contact her for months but then he will turn up because he needs money to pay for a tank of petrol to get to work.
Not being in your situation I'm not sure I can say what I'd do, but I know damn well I'd not let it get to that point after seeing what the relative goes through.
thank you everyone for your response. i am feeling very raw and sad for a long time from this.
well i guess there are different situations which decide if you should give or not. if people need support even huge support and they then go flying with the support you give thats great. but if they fly for a while and then in a crisis kick you in the face, thats the painful part.
suze orman once said on oprah how single mums give all their time and money for their kids with no time for relationships, friends, savings, and then have nothing left at the end of it. i've got worse than nothing left i've got so much hurt.
i'm trying to focus on other things but i have found its made me very down. I was exhausted by challenge after challenge without a while lot of crazy thigns now that its left me to do when i just needed peace already.
Last edited by sue1386; October 16th, 2009 at 07:58 PM.
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