Hey girls i said i would update you after i had seen my solicitor. She informed me that i should not mediate with this man until our baby is born and there is something to mediate over. She read the emails he had sent to me and took them as threats aswell. She will eat him alive when we do mediate so at the moment he is the least of my worries.

Just wondering if any of you have some advice on talking to children about visitation. My boys are 2 and 4 they stay with their dad 4 nights in a row every fortnight. They call me on the sunday night. The eldest son says "i lost mummy" and when i pick him up he says "i not lost anymore you save me". Then with my 2 yr old he asks me out right saying "home come home now" and again when i pick him up he says "oh yes home now" It rips at my heart strings when i have to tell them not to much longer mummy will be there to get you tuesday morning when you wake up but hey don't understand. How can i make the situation better for them what can i say to make them feel better about being with their dad.

I talk to them and tell them daddy loves you just as much as mummy and he wants to spend time with you too. But it just don't seem to matter to them. Help i want to stop hurting my kids.