single parenting by choice

[chickadee82]

i'm divocred and really not wanting to be in a serious relationship for a long time if ever again. my life is as i want it to be; i'm financially set, i have house etc etc. however i really would like to have another child and i'm begining to think i would like to do it on my own. really when you think about it i've already done it with raising my son. am i alone in thinking this? is there anyone in the same boat?

[Melby]

Hi, I am not in your boat but I understand where you are coming from. XH and I got together when I was 28 and already divorced with no kids. Still young, of course, but I always knew in my heart that even if I never found anyone else, I would still want to have a baby or two. I know now that I probably wouldn't have coped really well with a newborn by myself, but you already know the realities of having a newborn and if you really want another baby, why not do it on your own?? A child with a happy mother is way better off than a baby with 2 miserable parents.

[Shades]

Hey Mrs Muddle
I'm 24 and currently trying to concieve on my own, using donor sperm. I've wanted kids for years and I'm too high-maintenance for a partner . There's a great website called SMC Australia, just Google it and it's specifically for Solo Mums by Choice - the forums are full of friendly ladies in our exact situation... I skip between that and Bellybelly depending how specific the advice I want to get!
Whether you've thought about how-to's and stuff or not there's plenty of info on both this site and SMC. Also legal considerations and stuff. Hope that helps

[widdly]

I used to think that being a single parent by choice was a really selfish thing to do and felt sorry for children of those mothers. BUT thta was when i was young and niave and thought the world was a Disney movie LOL! Now I have had a rather large taste of reality I think being a single mum by choice3 is just as greta as being a married mum by choice. You go girls, if want bubbas then you have them!

[tan32]

I have a gf who is a single Mum to 1 and is desperate to have another bub. I support her a hundred percent in her choice. I hope it can happen for her

[Lulu]

TBH, I think the early baby days can be very very hard. I'm single too, but Dp stayed around and helped out for the first few months (until I kicked him out again!), I wouldn't want to do that totally on my own.