Username: Rainbow Raver
Real name: Laura
Number of children: 2
Separated since: 4 weeks ago
Care arrangements?: exDF has the kids every second weekend plus every thursday night for tea.
Biggest challenge as a single parent?: trying to afford everything, not getting any 'you' time.
General comments: i love being a single mummy.
Username: knk
Real name: Keryn
Number of children: 27 weeks with #1
Separated since: always
Care arrangements?: as far as I know at this time will be in my care 100%
Biggest challenge as a single parent?: I'm sure there will be more, but so far feeling lonely
General comments: just starting the single-parent journey
Username: AnnaT
Real name: Anna
Number of children: 3
Separated since: June 10th so just on 2 weeks...
Care arrangements?: ExH has the older 2 every weekend fri evening-sunday evening and will wing it with the youngest for now until he is not breastfed anymore/circumstances change.
Biggest challenge as a single parent?: The initial first leap, trying to find a house and be brave enough to not panic about things out of my control.
General comments:
Username: Rita68
Real name: Rita
Number of children: 1
Separated since: Never. Old friend who lives in Europe. We have/had flings whenever we were in the same country. He came to visit for a week and here I am with my beautiful 8 month old son.
Care arrangements?: All on my own.
Biggest challenge as a single parent?: Dealing with judgements from others including sometimes other single mums because I ended up pregnant like this and 'should have used protection'. I don't need the lecture.
General comments: My little boy arrived in an unusual way but I'm 40 and the crazy way it happened I know he is supposed to be here. I feel like he picked me and I feel very lucky. I am so worried about how he will be growing up with no dad but I am going to do everything I can to make sure he grows up with lots of love, confidence, courage, happiness, security and self-esteem. Would love to hear from other mums who are doing this completely alone.
Username: alex's mum
Real name: Liz
Number of children: 1
Separated since: March 2007
Care arrangements?:Goes to his dad's most saturday nights
Biggest challenge as a single parent?: working/ PND
General comments: hope this posts right!
Username: Roz1982
Real name: Roz
Number of children: 1 and one on the way
Separated since:sperated from my first childs father since he was 4 months old..approx five years ago. My new baby on the way...have been with the father for a couple months.
Care arrangements?: single parent all the way..no help from Son's father.
Biggest challenge as a single parent?: Wanting to provide well for my kids but also be there for there younger years as long as i can. Im currently studying though...so i have a future plan
General comments: I am going through a rough time with my expected baby's dad...looks like im going it alone (again) and he isnt happy im not aborting the baby. Would be good to be in contact with other mums in similar situations.
Username: Dotty_R
Real name: Rebecca
Number of children: 20 weeks with baby #3
Separated since: Today offically 8th Oct
Care arrangements?: FOB says he wants to enjoy his young years (25) so id say just me.
Biggest challenge as a single parent?: Making my babies life as normal as possible without a Dad
General comments: We planned this pregnancy and he decided I should abort, but I couldnt justify aborting a baby that we purposely concieved.
here you are too! i hope that today has gone okay for you. i'm glad you looked in on this thread too, even if just to know that you're not alone in this. by the sounds of it roz in the same situation as you, having someone put pressure on you to terminate. i can't imagine the hurt that that would cause esp as bub was planned. loose the man, keep the baby i say. i think dollyroux had it in one when she said a woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle. kia kaha sweetie.
Hi
Just want to put a message out to Roz 1982
I also live in Perth
I am a single mum to a beautiful 19 month old girl
i can related to how your feeling.
would really love to have a chat with you
someone who understands and also is in the same city
I really hope that you are doing ok.
Last edited by cmama; December 10th, 2009 at 02:14 PM.
: not comfortable with so many personal things public.
Username: SJE
Real name: Sara
Number of children: 2
Separated since: 27 nov 2009
Care arrangements?: Interim thanks to family court...But it seems just the norm plus my concessions due to good morals?
Biggest challenge as a single parent?: Making my babies life as normal as possible without a Dad
General comments: Where to start? Just think its so good to think ther is love and support out there!
Username: Blujella
Real Name: Julia
Number of Children: 2 (3 and 2 yrs)
Seperated Since: Yesterday
Care Arrangements: Undecided
Biggest Challenge as a single parent: ATM getting out of bed... I'm sure it will get better!
General Comments: Looking forward to meeting everyone and getting some support!
hey there julia (also brooke - lovely to see you here! sorry i haven't been in recently)
hope you and your little ones are doing well. you're right it will get better! and hey being single is really not so bad once you get used to it. i have to say it took me from july until about october/november to really see everything rationally. and man does it feel good to be free of that w***** now!
how're you going with everything today? well i hope. just remember to eat as much fruit and vege as you can as it will make you feel so so much better about life! try to sing along to the radio or just yourself if you so inclined (i sing absently lol!) as it releases endorphins and helps lift your spirit! dancing does the same thing! and if you have a chance then pick or pilfer some flowers from a garden and have them inside somewhere that they can make you happy to look at. it makes all the difference! am currently enjoying four red tulips on my table opening in the morning to the sun and closing up at night. they make everything seem more beautiful.
Username: Claude
Real Name: Mel
Number of Children: 1 (just under 2 years old)
Separated Since: Hasn't moved out yet but will be soon.
Care Arrangements: Not confirmed but likely with me fulltime due to his work hours and see her dad every other weekend.
Biggest Challenge as a single parent: Getting up each day to look after my DD and go to work when my heart is breaking.
General Comments: Very glad I found this website
Hi, I'm 27yo, 17 weeks pregnant from Sydney East. My story is quite trivial: we dated, I got pregnant, he ran away scared sh*tless. So here I am... I'm used to super social life, and now feel totally out of place. None of my friends are pregnant or with children, and I'd love to meet other parents or parents-to-be. PM me, lets get together or something
Username:~Kirsten~
Real name:Kirsten
Number of children: 2 yr old little boy, one on the way..
Separated since: n/a
Care arrangements?:living with me full time
Biggest challenge as a single parent?: money, time to myself, dealing with him on my own..
General comments: I been a single mum for awhile now.. My son father done a runner and have not heard from him for 3 years.. Baby no.2 I'm hoping the father will stick around..
Hi everyone!
Username: nurseymum
Real name: Kristie
No of children: x1, gorgeous 4yr old DD
Separated since: always
Care arrangements: with me full time
Biggest challenge: Dealing with the "where's my daddy questions" that are just starting to come - they make my heart hurt
General: Wondering why I didn't get on here earlier, such a great place to vent/empathise/sympathise and be supported, always up for a chat
Don't worry about your daugther suddenly questioning about her "daddy". It seems common around 4 - 5 years of age for kids who don't have any contact with their father, but they do get over it. My daughter went through it when she was in prep (5 years old). She is now a very passionate campaigner for children without dads - trying to educate teachers and others to the fact that not every kid has a Dad and "there is nothing wrong with that"!
She is 14 years old now and has no interest in meeting her father. We seperated when I was 16 weeks pregnant with her and she has never met him. I am now pregnant with my 2nd child through an anon donor (IVF) so this child will have no opportunity to meet their father until they are atleast 18. Hopefully if they have any problems/issues with this my daughter's confidence will help them.
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