Single Parents General Chatter - Dec 2007-Jan 2008

[Melly01]

Sorry for being so absent lately. It's felt like I have had no time to myself lately. BF & I broke up, because I didn't feel like I had the time for a relationship & being back a uni will mean I will have even less time to spend with him. He was ok with it, I think. We're back to being friends now which is good since Logan likes him a lot (He came to pick us up for swimming lessons on Saturday, so he could buy me a birthday present after, and Logan ran to him with his arms out saying "Hello Momo!" and was happy to see him.. His name is Damian but I call him Damo so Logan calls him Momo LOL he also calls Nemo & Elmo "Momo", sorry rambled).

I hope everything is going well for all of you.

Oh, Brendansmum, Logan & I just went to Melbourne from the 26th - the 2nd. I loved it down there, I would be so tempted to move there one day.. Logan just wanted to go on the horse & carriage he saw, but we didn't get to. Hopefully another time

[AMH]

Hello not sure if I should write my story here or post a new thread??
I'll give a brief fill in:
I married my DH almost 6yrs ago and have been with him for 10yrs.We have 2 boys, Jasper(4) and Logan(nearly 2). In October last year I found out he had been sms and talking to another woman, a week later I found out we were expecting #3. I confronted him about this other woman and everthing spiralled down hill from there.. Lots and Lots of lies, arguments, hurt and deceit.. I gave our marriage my all still knowing he was contiuing this relationship with this other woman although he denied it.. Xmas he spent xmas eve with her and xmas night.. again lied about it but I knew where he was.. that was the last straw for me and I asked him to move out that weekend following. Since then he has barely seen the boys or barely rung them.. and has just moved this weekend to Bris to live with this other woman..she too is apparently a single mother of 2.. he isnt interested in the new baby and even asked me to get rid of it earlier on. I just dont understand how someone who you thought you knew and loved could hurt you sooo much..
in the last week he has asked me to let him take the kids to Bris with him for visits.. I am refusing as he has never taken an active role in thier lives even when we were together..now hes has threatened to go for custody of them.. my biggest fear...
I have a current solicitor , but i was just wondering what his chances of this are??
I would appreicate any ideas..
thank you
Anna

[Early Kids]

Mel, I loved Melb, it was just gorgeous.... I still cant get over how many parks there are!! Definately no shortage there... lol

Anna, hello and welcome to our lil thread So sorry to hear of your situation. Big congrats on your lovely children and bubba number 3!

I start house hunting soon.... Nigel and i have sorted out a fair bit now and while we are on friendly terms I'm really not sure if I cant trust him to stay with me... it keeps sticking to me that he's done it once, has he really learnt his lesson or not?? So I'm not really sure if I can afford to live by myself but not really sure if I want to live with him either... aaargh. I'm sure we'll (i'll) work something out!!

take care

[Lilly-Pilly]

Hey Anna, Sorry to hear you're having such a yucky time, your ex sounds like a complete idiot.

I never can understand how a parent can just move away and forget about their kids like that. My dad was pretty much the same as your ex. I'm not 27 and have only JUSTforgiven him for the past and got to know him again. I was 5 when he left. I don't think they even realise the effect it has on the kids when they do stuff like that.

We're all here to talk to and support each other through all the cr@p Let us know if there is ever anything we can do to help or if you just need to talk.

It gets better, I promise it does...