Single, pregnant, father lives overseas, how do I tell him?

[MummaBear79]

Hi Rita,

Do you use msn? I have been in this situation so I might be able to help As you can see by my signature, it all worked out and we now have 3 kids My partner was also from Europe (Sweden) when I fell pregnant with Bailey. It was a HUGE life change for the both of us, but it all worked out in the end. Im happy to talk if you want too. Where is Europe is your friend from?

[~Belinda~]

Rita, congratulations on your pregnancy. It's such a wonderful journey to be pregnant and then to become a mother. I still pinch myself that I have Madeleine, she is an angel and truly the most beautiful thing I've ever seen.

I can't offer any advice in your situation but I do wish you the very best with everything.

Hugs are coming your way from me...

[Rita68]

Hey there,
Thanks for the advise from everyone. I told the father two weeks ago and he is very adamant that I should have an abortion. He says that this is going to destroy his life. He says that it would be easier for everyone if i get rid of it and that it is not fair to bring a child into the world with no father.

So the end result hasnt been good but in some ways I am relieved that I have finally told him. I'm trying not to engage too much in conversation with him anymore about it because I absolutely will not have an abortion. He told me that a female friend of his thinks that I only want to have it because of all the hormones going on and that once I have an abortion this will go away. I find it unbelievable that he managed to find a female who could say this. She had an abortion in a similar situation so maybe she is just trying to justify things for herself.

Financially i should be okay and I have a lot of friends who should support me.
Once again thanks for the kind words
xox

[Jas]

Rita,

I am so sorry to here that news. I want to say a big congratulations on your pregnancy and your decision!

There are ladies on here in all different circumstances that would love to support you on your journey looking forward to hearing more on your pregnancy because regardless of this reaction a baby is definitely a positive thing!

[mirandainmelbourne]

Hi,

Me too! I'm 20 weeks pregnant, the FOB is in Canada and wants nothing to do with the baby. I told him when I was 4 weeks and haven't seen him since. I've emailed him a few times, birth certificate and next of kin stuff, but he's adamant he doesn't want to know about the baby. I'm keen to not burn too many bridges, as I reckon it's in my daughter's best interests to keep communications cordial. It's a very weird situation though. Which is probably why I'm sitting on the internet at 06.30 on a holiday monday...

[Rita68]

Hi there. That's quite a coincidence. I'm also 20 weeks and live in Australia too. The FOB lives in Europe. If you feel like emailing a bit just to share the experience my email is mozza68@hotmail.com

I don't know anyone else who has such a similar situation to me.