My daughter was born two days early, on 23rd October 2008. In so many ways the last 7 months have flown by, but in so many other ways they feel like they've gone at snails pace! I'm lucky as she is a very content baby, the majority of the time. Still waiting for her teeth to come through though. I'm sure that's going to be tough!
Anyway, I just wanted to say, in regards to the birth certificate, I spoke with the social worker at Centrelink and as I don't know enough of the father's details, I filled in a stat dec stating this. I also had to sign a stat dec for Births, Deaths & Marriages & after jumping through some hoops finally received her birth certificate without her fathers details. I provided Centrelink with a copy and now receive PPS, which, without, we wouldn't survive!
..How is everyone else going now? Love to hear your stories...
Hi there. So nice to hear other women's stories that are a bit similar to mine. I have a lovely mellow 8 month old boy and his father lives in Europe. I have know the father for quite a few years. We met in Australia and after knowing him for a month we had a fling and I became a bit smitten and he invited me to visit him overseas and I went. Then we didnt' see each other for a couple of years until he was in the country two summers ago. I actually tried to avoid seeing him because i know he is a playboy but in the end I gave in when he asked if he could visit me in during his last five days in the country. I thought 'five days can't hurt' - well...I ended up pregnant and he has ceased contact with me after being rather angry about the whole thing.
I have also had terrible stress around the birth certificate. I live in Victoria and got legal advice from a family lawyer and she strongly advised not to put the father's name on their due to having to get permission etc when I want to leave the country on a holiday. I just can't bring myself to send it in saying that I don't know the father and I feel so sad that his certificate will have to have 'unknown' when referring to the father. I still feel so guilty that I took a crazy risk with a man who couldnt live further away but on the other hand I am so in love with my beautiful boy that I feel like it was meant to be this way.
I would love to meet other women who are going through a similar experience. It's hard for people to really understand what this is like. I'm working full time but it's a media business that I can do from home so I'm managing to do it with my son at home with me. Thank god he is a mellow bub and he sleeps well which has saved me. I couldn't do this work if he wasn't the way he is.
The hardest thing I am finding is that I feel like I am being judged by some people. I am in a very public job and it's hard having to keep holding my head up high and not allowing people to be negative to me with the situation I am in. And the other part is the stress and fear I have about how my son will cope in the future not having a father in the picture. Anyway I would love to be in contact with you all if you will have me
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