Corelly- Thanks yeah im on fairly good speaking terms with her she has been great in the past but unfortunatly like myself she cannot get any sense into XP.
she has been trying and trying she agrees that visitations should be at her house so its easier to both parties.

Molly- thanks for the advice it does put some ease to my worries. i am aware about mediation which is what we have in place atm (not legal so to speak) i know i cant control what XP does whilst having DS i just wish i could!!! grrr. I will deff bring it up though XP doesnt think his drinking is a problem. He drinks and parties cause he has nothing better to do apparently.

its my bday tomorrow and im on such a downerrr! i want him to dissapear.