Hun you have made a very difficult decision, and you have clearly put a lot of thought and planning into what that decision was going to be. You have made the right decision for you and if others don't agree then that is up to them, they aren't living your life.
It is good to hear that you have been firm and set the boundaries and if he lets any of you down, you know that you have drawn the line as such. I hope that he doesn't let them down, as being in that position before as a child it sucked
It is very hard and I can only imagine what my mum went through with the three of us, we would have to fly to NSW to see our father.
But she too allowed us to make it our decision when we were old enough, my Brother and Sister still keep in contact where as I don't, he let me down so many times and would get my hopes up and then smash them, I have chosen to keep people like that out of my life.
Take care and I hope it goes smoothly for you all xxoo
WOW thats like reading a chapter out of my own book. I to like you have never stoped the ex from seeing the kids. As much as i would love to some times its not my place to take away his dad.
I do hope he follows thru for the kids. Also can i just suggest you write up the action plan you have for the asthma. Anf give it to him make sure he understands it completly.Just to be safe and ease your mind to.
Do hope it all works for the best hun.
i think you have done the right thing hun.
also i noticed you said the new GF had to get herself involved. it think it makes it so much worse when there is a new *****y partner it makes it so hard when tryin to get things sorted out.
my ex SIL is going through all this with my bro and his new GF and if the new GF just stayed out of it things wouldnt have gotten as bad as they did.
i too cant stand my ex and would seriously love to not ever see him again.. but he is my girls father and i will never prevent them from seeing him unless i feel they are in danger.
Personally i cant stand women who use their kids as pawns in the breakup.. seen it happen way to many times, yes my exh hurt me when he chose to do what he did but just because i am hurt doesnt mean i am going to stoop to his level and hurt him back. eventually the girls will make their own decision regarding him and i will be there for them when they do
I hope it goes well for you hun and the kids can develop a relationship with their dad
xxoo
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