update: thanks Girl-23... To answer your question im not anymore as i worked it out that she my old (ex) friend has some severe mental issues and the more i was 'helping' her the more stressed out i was getting as she was telling me all this **** and making my imagination go wild so i decided to cut ties with her about 6 weeks ago now .... and funny or interesting turn of invents i finally blurted stuff to my ex husband and he apologised to me he apologised for his behaviour towards me and told me that she isnt well. I said so you so met your match as you can be quite a handful a control freak idiot and a not nice man to live with i said we you and me have two wee boys and that is the only reason why im trying to put OUR past behind us BUT that women who believes you are a sociopath and narscistic monstor (and mind you you make out that is true at times when you cant get your way but i ignored you and then i couldnt handle your behaviour so i left ) . I also told him another reason why i was telling him stuff i knew was he has a small wee child and i was (not so much now) scared i was to be dumped with this child from the mum because she may flip after all i know she drinks alot the earliest i caught her drinking as 10am in the morning ...... my ex husband said if that ever happens ring me and then the police and that when he apologised to me and told me that he was so sorry i was in the middle of his mess. From there to now we have had a few laughs and tears and he has had a few OMG moments and all i said to him is 'Not nice being talked about is it ?' NOt nice knowing you tried everthing but your the one the cops the blame!' " NOT nice feeling like absolute crap is it xxx"
Oh but girls I was still to blame for our relationship bust up after i suggested that the psych that we went to see didnt help us he said ' no she told me the problem and that problem was you being in contact with xxx' and then another text ' i couldnt handle you bonking another guy' i only sent this back ' im not fighting with you but im not going to blamed for ALL of our marriage split it takes two to tango ... you have your perception and i have mine.... im trying to co parent with you so please leave our past in the past however im very glad your mental health is much healthier but please dont try to blame everyone else for your stuff ups .
Last night: my son turned 5 ...so we all went out for his bday i offered my ex a glass of wine and he said 'i dont drink much wine anymore as i cant handle it' I had the biggest smirk on my face and i said 'really is that so!' I knew he couldnt handle it as i used to watch him go thru 2 1/2 bottles one evening by him self and then the behaviour came
afterwards...
So thats where i am today.... feel like we have come 360 degrees....its weird but good ..
BUT IM NOT GOING BACK EVER !!!
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