Kate, what an awful thing to have happen so suddenly.

He is trying to make himself feel better by making you feel worse by the sounds. He sounds totally PO'd that you are clearly taking it better than he THINKS you should have taken it....ie he probably wants you to be totally devastated grovelling at his feet and that you forgive him.

You sound very strong and have yours and Lachlan's best interest at heart. You are doing the right thing.