Perhaps that is where my friend got confused nothing2lose. We are currently in mediation over custody for DD. I never went for sole custody as he vanished out of her life for so many years and at the time there didn't seem any point. Now we are in the process of mediation with the plans on going to court as he is been very unreasonable and nothing has been solved. DD also doesn't want to see him near as much as he is requesting her (which is every 2nd weekend with the plan on increasing that as he builds a relationship with her) Given his absence out of her life and her wishes I feel I'm been very reasonable and been an advocate for her wishes by now following this through although unfortunately at a huge financial cost to us. Seeing as we are going to court anyway I thought maybe I could just throw in the name change also whilst I am there seeing as she is known by one name and his trying to insist she changes to what is on her birth certificate (Geez I was stupid for ever putting it on there in the first place. Thank the Lord for my mother who did my medicare card when DD was born)