Hi,

I just joined the forum after coming across it. I'm a single father to my son who turns 3 in a couple of weeks. It?s just been me and him since his mother and I separated when he was 2 weeks old. I have been the sole carer of him since then. She doesn't play any role in his life, we haven't seen her in 2 years. I know a bit of a strange situation. But my son and I are both happy and I wouldn't change a thing.

Being a single parent has its ups and downs, but it all worth it in the end. But lately I find myself thinking about the future and wondering about having more kids or not. I have always wanted more than 1 child. But after my last experience, it has left me a little scared about the whole idea of trusting someone enough to have a child with them. As i don?t want to have another child then have a failed relationship. If I knew we would last and be happy, I would love to have another child.

As I said my son is about to turn 3. I never really wanted a large age gap in between my kids. So I'm starting to think that even though I want more kids it may be off the cards for me. As if I were to have another child, for starters I would need to meet someone (obviously), then have a strong enough relationship and be sure that it was the right person to have children with again. So this could be no sooner than at least 2-3 years down the track. By that stage my son would be coming up to being 7 by the time the next child would be born. Which I think is a rather large gap in between kids.

But I suppose this doesn't really matter as I'm only turning 22 this year. So my age isn't going to be a factor. Just don't want to make my situation even more complicated, by risking having more kids, sadly by seeing how many relationships actually last these days. But then again, nothing ventured, nothing gained. Plus I keep finding myself so clucky when I see newborns in the super market.

So was just wondering if anyone else has been in this situation before and how things turned out for them. Or if you have any advice? Well thanks for reading

David