When do you know it's time to walk away?

[newmummy85]

Thanks for your opinion and advice mis_tree, and no you're not out of line at all. It's good to get other perspectives.

To answer a few of your questions, I do have a great, supportive family, but not so many friends here anymore, as I have spent the last few years traveling and lost touch with most of them. I don't think I know any new mothers at all that are local. He has had the application for about a week, but has been working long hours due to lack of staff for the past few days.

I know it seems stupid that I would stay with him after everything that I have explained, and I have always thought I was stronger than that and would never put up with any guy's crap, but after the last time he lied (told me he was working a different shift to what he was-such a stupid thing to lie about!) I told him it was over.

After that I layed on my bed and was in such excrutiating agony at the idea of being without him and doing this alone that I decided that maybe being with him even when he hurts me sometimes is better than not being with him and going all this alone.

I know having this baby will be so worth it and I will probably be ok eventually, but the past year has already been so hard for me that I just don't know how much more I can take. Atleast if I stay with him, I don't have to feel that pain and worry just now.

He has never been abroad before, so coming here and leaving his old life, family and friends is a massive decision. I think that's the only reason he is nervous about doing the visa....I hope. He assures me every day that he will be here. It's all just so confusing. I'm such a mess right now, but trying to be strong in front of my family. Just need to vent this somewhere and I figure you guys will understand the best!