this is really a hard one, but the thing is if he doesn't want to visit DD, you can't make hime. men, whats wrong with them sometimes?! i like sushees idea, you can still be nice about it and some people do use this time to just stuff up XP's days. i know as i have a good friend who is just going thru a separation.

i am sending you a hug and some good luck.

BTW, vent away, that will at least make you feel a bit better. good luck to you.