Hugs to you, that's just horrible but I hope at least some of it makes you think that if a person can be that nasty that you're better off without him. The sexual details are just infantile.

Lawyers will look at who put what into the relationship and what you brought into the relationship. Not just money - if you were a SAHM that counts too because you contributed to the relationship in terms of caring for the kids and running the household.

You've done the right thing in putting boundaries around phone calls.

The best advice a lawyer ever gave me was to work out what you'd be happy with in terms of the financial split and try to sort it out amicably. That may be a long way off if he's going to be a dill but at least you can do your bit and figure out what you'd be happy with.

At the end of the day, you can psychoanalyse him all day and try to work out why he's being like this. You may or may not come up with an answer. But what you can do is look after yourself and slowly work through the financials/custody.

More hugs xx