XH manipulating kids, custody choices when older

[Pandora]

Catastrophic - School nights are, yes. My boys are with me 3 school nights and alternating saturdays nights

[Catastrophic]

so it kinda goes...

He has them Sun, Mon, Tues
and you have them Wed, Thur, Fri
and every 2nd Saturday...

Could you do what Divvy suggested and look for a sport on your days?

Which school do they go to? your suburb or his? Maybe if they go to his suburb you could say that sports should be in the alternative suburb?

[Pandora]

Yes. That was the plan, for basketball.
Until he found out and joined them up near him first.
Now he will say things like 'Well, its up to you if you want to move him out of a team where he is settled and has friends, and break up all those friendships, then thats your choice"

They go to school in his. Theyve always gone there, even when we both lived here, which is 20 minutes away. He moved there after we separated.
So its not like he doesnt have friends here that he would be getting to see if he played sports here.

I can look for another sport here on a saturday morning, but because basketball is already on Saturdays, I'm again 'sabotaging' his friendships.

I will try to get XH to sit down and discuss it, I just hope he will be a little bit more reasonable and prove me wrong.