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I would give yourself at least a few weeks hunny.
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How long do you have to wait?
I miscarried my little man on Thursday and nearly bled to death. I know I need to take time to get my blood and vitamins and girlie bits well again. But I was just curious how long you have to wait till you ttc again? I feel hollow and empty and want my baby back...
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I would give yourself at least a few weeks hunny.
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I am so so sorry for your loss. I lost my little one on Thursday as well, and know exactly what you mean about feeling empty. Everyone here is very understanding and knows how difficult this experience is. I will be keeping you in my prayers.
As far as your question, I will tell you right now that there is no definitive answer. After my first m/c, the "physician's assistant" said we should wait two cycles before we started TTC again. After my second m/c, I went to the same office, but I saw an actual OB this time, and she said there is absolutely no physical reason to wait. She said what they mean by 'two months' is that you shouldn't consider the first two cycles as actively trying, because your cycle might not be back to normal yet. But she told me there is absolutely no higher risk of having problems in a subsequent pregnancy if you DO conceive before getting another period. She said the typical recommendations to wait a cycle stem from times when they used the date of your period to determine the gestational age. Now, ultrasounds are far more accurate at determining that anyway. But like I said, there are still people who would say to wait a cycle, some say two, some even say three. For the most part, all the research I've done (and trust me, that's a LOT) has said that trying again right away is fine.
All that being said, I believe you should only start trying again when you are emotionally ready. That is the biggest issue in your decision. I know for me, it feels like I will only feel less empty when I get pregnant again, as scary as it will be. So sorry again that you are going through this. Praying that you will have a healthy little baby very soon.
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Thank you for your thoughts, I just feel like I need to put a little people back in me to feel like a person again. I know it's a rush and it's not the best thing emotionally, but, arg, i dunno, it's hard to explain. It's like a part of me is missing and I need to fill the hole inside me both physically and emotionally again... guess I'll just let mother nature decide
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There is no time
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So it doesn't strengthen the uterus to wait or anything? It all bounces back super quick?
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Someone told me the other day one of the easiest times to fall pregnant is just after you have been pregnant. I dont know how true that is so dont quote me, but apparently your body is still in the baby making frame of mind.
After my mc I was told to wait 3 months, but after speaking to my doc last week she said it doesnt make much of a difference, if I was to fall pregnant now I should be fine. Its just giving yourself time to heal emotionally I think. However you should have a good talk to your doctor about it just to see what he/she thinks.
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There are varying opinions (as usual) Some believe it is better to wait to allow a normal cycle to recommence. Others believe you can try as soon as you are emotionally ready. Some say it increases the risk of miscarriage to fall pregnant immediately. Others say there is no difference whatsoever. Some sat to wait 1/3/6 months
Unfortunately, as with any pregnancy, there are no guaranteesYou may fall pregnant immediately and have a normal, uncomplicated pregnancy or you may not. It is impossible to say. At 15 weeks, you are a second trimester loss which should be discussed with your OB. There may need to be additional tests to determine if there is a why to your loss which may impact on your next pregnancy. This may make you consider alternatives of when to TTC.
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I had a talk to the dr about bubs, I described him and that there was a pool of blood under the skin at the back of the brain, they think its a clot or a haemorage or that it didn't develop properly and that is probably the reason. With a already healthy child they said there is no reason I can't TTC as normal and I didn't need any tests at this stage but they didn't say if I should wait or not and I was very drowsy and slow witted so forgot to ask.
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I have heard /read so too.
My Doc says soon as i was emotionally stable thats what we are going with
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ty for the kind words, i will wait till the bleeding stops and give myself a cycle to recover then talk to DP about it. he's very scared if we try again next time they wont b able to save my life but he is also male and will ravage me nonetheless lolso we will see how we go now i know i dont have to stress and avoid the prospect for months etc its ok if it happens straight away it wont be bad for me
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I was told that the further along you are, the later it can take your cycle to go back to normal.
But after losing ours at 12 weeks, I am back to normal already, not even 4 weeks later.
But definitely make sure you are emotionally ready. I know I wanted to just think of trying again straight away initially. But now that I'm not allowed to, it's given me time to relax a bit and go through it all, and I think it's helping me cope. And it's certainly like having a second chance to be ready for pregnancy.
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Ty snuggle, sorry I haven't replied to your PM again yet I've been a bit scattered and trying to catch up with uni work (who gives a bleep about bleeping politics, hate it at the best of times let alone now gah). How are you feeling? Have any tests come back?
Does anyone know how long you should bleed for after a D&C, I'm still bleeding but only a very light period watery sort of bleed, no clots or anything. I couldn't get a dr appointment for a follow up till next week.
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Before I m/c naturally, I was scheduled to have a D&C if I were to need it. When I had my surgical consult with the doc, she told me bleeding typically lasts for about 10-14 days. I'm still having light bleeding after m/c naturally last Thursday. I really wish it would stop! I feel like I won't be back to normal until this is over and DH and I can start trying again.
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Re: bleeding after d & c - this is just what happened with me. I had clotty gross bleeding for about 48 hours. Then nothing for 2 days, then AF-like bleeding - panicked when it first started! It lasted 8 days, although was only spotting after the 2nd day, exactly like my AF would be, and then my cycle swung back into normal, well, I think it did! I went on to experience ovulation symptoms (cm, ovulation pain) at what would be counted as CD 20 if the AF bleeding is CD1. CD 20 has been my ovulation day for almost a year, so I have taken it as a sign that my cycle is back to normalNot that I can use it yet! But always nice to know. Also, means I am due for AF in a couple of days, which certainly explains a lot!
Hope your bleeding settles down soon
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CelticMoon,
I have had two m/c - it's devastating. I'm sorry for your loss...
My doctor said I could try straight away after the first m/c - so I did. My cycle took ages to get back to normal though. I had another m/c recently so now I am taking some time off ttc (a couple of months) to try to get as healthy as I can and get all the check ups to make sure I have a good chance of it not happening again.
Everyone is different though, as someone mentioned, it can happen straight away and the next one is perfect!
I totally hear you on the emptiness though. It is so strange isn't it, how we can bond with this little bean so early? It's really a miracle.
hi i feel ur pain my lil girl was born on friday at 22 weeks she was beautiull and when i read u feel empty i feel the same i havent even burried her yet and i want another dont stop tryin never give up
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