MIL & Photos - what do you think?

[Winter]

Do you think I am being strange? DH & I were discussing and I thought "I know! I'll ask the BB girls! They'll tell me it like it is!!"

I don't like sending my MIL photos of my daughter because she shows them or forwards them to all her friends and people that I don't know. I feel its too 'showy-offy' and don't like DD being looked at & discussed by strangers (to me, obviously friends to them).

So, what do you think?

[LaDeeDa]

I would have a prob if someone was posting them online for anyone to view but I think it's pretty normal for a proud grandma to want to show their friends their grandbaby...

[Nai]

We give MIL hardcopy ones to put in her brag book. That was she can carry them around and show them to people but they can't be emailed or forwarded etc.

[Matryoshka]

I think wanting to show off your grandchildren is fairly common, and i would never rob my MIL of that priviledge. I give her hard copies of all our photos and trust her use of them. I'm sure she has the common sense not to display them in any way that would make my boys vulnerable.

[black_rose]

My, mum, MIL and my dad's wife all love to show off our girls, they always ask if they want to put them up on facebook but I am friends with them both so I can see what they are doing anyway! They all have copies that they have printed too. Don't think I would like people I don't know getting emails so they have copies of the files but I am happy for them to talk about the girls and how proud they are. I think they would be hurt if I did tell them not to.

What surprises me is that my dad's wife is so keen on showing them off, we never used to be close ans she has her own grand son but she still spoils my girls.

Maybe print her off some, you can get them for 15 cents each these days instead of emailing??

[Indadhanu]

Gosh my mum and MIL would have a fit if I didn't give them photos!!!! You should see them, they're the grandparents who pull out the grandbaby photos to show the bag checker at Kmart!!! They get smooshy gooshy proud look on their face, and my dad seems to stand a littler straighter when he's being proud of his granddaughter!

As far as the computer goes, mum (MIL doesn't use the computer) knows what is safe and unsafe on the internet and I trust her. She doesn't send the in emails, and only puts them on her Facebook site which I know she has set to private. Well, my bro is 8, so she knows herself how vulnerable you feel as a parent with picutres of your young children on the internet. I can trust her with photos and know she's not going to forward them to EVERYONE on her contact list.


So, since you asked, I will tell you how I see it, and hope you don't be offended! I do think its being a bit precious. Fair enough not to send you second cousins boyfriends aunts neighbour the photos, but this is your daughters grandmother. Unless she's a evil nasty peice of work ogre, I think she deserves at least hard-copy photos to show-off to her friends

[Winter]

So, since you asked, I will tell you how I see it, and hope you don't be offended! I do think its being a bit precious. Fair enough not to send you second cousins boyfriends aunts neighbour the photos, but this is your daughters grandmother.

Totally not offended! Thanks for keeping it real Leasha!

See my problem is that MIL IS likely to send them to DH's second cousins boyfriends aunts neighbour because she's known them for 30 years and MIL's had to wait a long time for a grandchild, don't you know?

(And MIL isn't evil, just your ordinary commom garden-variety MIL .....)

[Indadhanu]

By send do you mean email or post?

Maybe chat to her that you don't want people you don't know to HAVE your photos. You don't mind if she pulls them out to show-off, but if she sends them on either in email or in the post, then she loses photo priviledges.

[~Kim~]

We give MIL hardcopy ones to put in her brag book. That was she can carry them around and show them to people but they can't be emailed or forwarded etc.

Yep same.
We did have trouble initially with people we didn't even really know ending up with copies of photos of Darcy. Now we don't.

[Winter]

Email or photos on the mobile phone.

But I think you girls have nailed it on the head with just sending the hardcopy photos!!

THANKS BB - you've done it again!

DH is happy, I'm happy and MIL will be happy!

[Nai]

Buy her a little handbag sized photo album that she can put them in to make her feel special.

[BellyBelly]

I think it's a great idea to perhaps give her a gift of a little book full of photos for her handbag, and post or give her new photos regularly to update it. I know when my daughter was born she was the first grandchild and the grandparents couldn't wait to tell anyone who'd listen. I couldn't take the delight off of them of sharing the beautiful photos and news.

[briggsy's girl]

i think you've come up with a good compromise with the brag book - it's what my mum did with photos of her first and second grandkidlets. now she shares on facebook - i'm a friend on FB so i see what she posts, she knows what limits i have, and i can see who she has befriended. i'm also a shocker for privacy stuff so i set her FB up so that no photos can be copied by anyone else from her profile.

[Heaven]

BG- how do u do that so photos can't be copied?