missing muscles

[Pandora]

I have been having physio for pelvic floor issues and stomach muscle separation following the birth of DS2. Stomach mucles still have 3cm separation, was 5-6 after his birth
Pelvic floor is not healing so well. I am seeing a physio who specialises in the area,a nd have had to ahve internals done.
Basically it seems the muscle on one side has almost completely torn away so everything only half works Not fun I also have a prolapse apparetly, but I cant feel enything.
She has suggested the possibilty of surgery once my youngest is old enough that Im not picking him up alot, so 3-4.
This has completely put me off having more kids even though we were sort of planning to have three.
Has anyone had this sort of surgery before? What should I expect?

[Olive]

awwwww hun thats not good, have you maybe though of going to see a specialist and getting an opionin? see what they say may be the best way to go. did she say what could happen if you have another child? is it likely to alot more damage?

[Bea06]

I'm in the same boat. I'd love to hear how you get on. I've also tried to find sites or something where women talk about their experience of having the surgery, but haven't really had any success. If I have any more children i'm going to have a ceaser as I don't want to make the damage any worse than it already is.

I'm terrified of having the surgery and possibly ending up even more unhappy with my vagina than I already am. My gynie said they can try and rejoin the muscle with mesh or something, but I can't possibly imagine how you could have sex with mesh in your vaginal walls?

[Michelle71]

The mesh is internal, not on the vaginal wall. The feel of the vaginal wall remains the same but the muscles behind it are repaired. My friend had basically a membrane between the rectum and the vaginal wall where the muscle had torn / separated during delivery. She has had a repair and everything is much better - pelvic floor control, sexual satisfaction etc.

Unfortunately, pregnancy itself (even weight gain) can damage the pelvic floor so c-section does not guarantee an undamaged pelvic floor.