Payments whilst seperated living under same roof?

[Mother Goose]

Just wondering if anyone can tell me if Centrelink/FAO pay any assistance if you're seperated and under the same roof? DH and I have recently seperated for all intended purposes but he has moved down stairs. We are unable to have either of us move out at this very point in time...

I know that once we are living seperately, I will get FTBA and B plus single parent plus rent assist. But what about at the moment? If they can give me some sort of assistance I will be able to move out much quicker which will be better for all.

TIA

MG

[Lulu]

Can you move to a friends or parents in the meantime? You will def have entitlement if you are out of the house. It's very VERY hard to get this payment. I didn't grant one in the entire time I was at Clink - but I didn't regret it, everything worked out the way it should.

Can't he bunk in with a mate? It would make everything easier.

ETA - otherwise you will just have to share the finances as you would as flatmates - are you working atm?

sorry its come to this chicken xoxoxo

[squidipa]

I know that when my husband moved here for NZ he supported himself while i supported myself and kids. We both lived under same roof and i notified centerlink and told them he pays half the bills we are in a relationship but he sleeps in my lounge room, Its a non sex relationship and we were fine i kept receiving benefits hubbie did not claim benefits. once married obviously we then shared a room. and my payments changed.

[Turkish Delight]

oh hun. I didn't know you had separated from DH

No advice though. I'm sure BG will help when she sees your post.

Also letting you know that i am here to help/listen.

xxoo

[Mother Goose]

Lulu - we have no family here and he has no friends (not surprising) but thanks for letting me know. Yes, I am working, 4 days a week.

Squid - thanks for that. Maybe I should give them a call...

TD - I've not made it very public. This is only the 2nd public spot it has been mentioned with the other being my blog.

[Lulu]

Just do everything half half until you can do something different. I doubt you will be able to claim anything though hun.
Squid, that's not a separated under one roof payment. It's highly unusual to be given a single rate payment in a relationship - sex or not. It probably had more to do with his NZ status.

[squidipa]

It probably had more to do with his NZ status.

could very well be they had tho asked if we were having that kind of relationship cause that would therefor effect payment ... i would just get the ex to pay for half of everything too

[Lulu]

Umm, well actually you were in that kind of relationship, so it must have slipped through!

[squidipa]

I dunno how they work things out I just was honest, i made it perfectly clear that we as christians have a no sex before marriage thing, We told them all the wedding dates too. then changed to partnered parenting just like now, even tho hubbie does not work or claim anything. we live of my payment

I have known of another person whom has lived under the same room with ex but they had to clearly show they paid their own ways and did not share a room. Just call centerlink and Be 100% honest declare everything and see what the outcome is. Always best to be 100% honest what ever the outcome honesty is always best

[squidipa]

double post

[Janie]

MG, I can't help you with your query, but I just wanted to give you a massive hug . If you ever want to have a coffee (or meet at a playcentre!!!) just sing out.

[ll80]

I received this payment when I split from my ex, he moved into the bungalo.
Just had to fill out a whole heap of forms and get someone within the community, my doctor, to write a letter confirming we had split etc.
Was a lot of extra mucking around but I got it in the end.

[briggsy's girl]

MG - call up and make an application. it's not going to be easy, i'll give you that - but you won't know if you don't try. seperated under one roof does happen, but as Lulu said, it's rare. basically, you have to provide statements from people that know you (and it's generally preferred to be people of "standing" within the community, like counsellors etc) that you are seperated. you need to be seen by the community as seperated. all finances (bank accounts, credit cards etc) need to be seperated. you will need to talk to the person at your appointment in regards to your current living arrangements - and i won't lie - it's not always going to be easy or pleasant - they will ask about more than just the rooms you sleep in. there will be questions in regard to care of your child (ie, do you do things together for her, or do you do them all yourself), do you prepare/eat meals together, the sexual aspects (or lack of) in your relationship. financial contributions to the upkeep of the house etc. you will be asked to apply for child support etc if it's granted. if you already have an arrangment in place for private child support, mention that.

it won't be easy, but it's not impossible.

hugs hun - this is a tough time for you

BG

[Bathsheba]

MG, I can't help you with your query, but I just wanted to give you a massive hug . If you ever want to have a coffee (or meet at a playcentre!!!) just sing out.

Likewise! I hope you get through this rough time as smoothly as possible.

[Inanna]

Big big hugs honey. I am sorry that you are navigating this - it's really tough...

[Mother Goose]

Thanks everyone. And thanks for the inside advice BG and Lulu.

[tiggerandpooh]

i know someone who has just applied for this, and as BG said lots of paperwork, that is required to be filled out by BOTH parties. its not impossible, and definately worth making an application for. Just be prepared for the confronting questions that the application ask. Good luck.

[willow5]

Hi MG, my XH and I had the same arrangement when we first separated, I didn't get the payment from centrelink after a while we ended up doing a week on week off arrangement, so one week I stayed with a friend while he stayed in the house with the kids the next he stayed with a friend while I stayed in the house with the kids, I think then O started to get a payment (I was working part time) but getting the part payment from centrelink helped with me finding my own place. But was definitely too hard to get anything while still under the same roof.
Was a very hard time mentally, emotionally and financially but you'll get there in the end.
Best of luck

ADDIT: Just saw post by tiggerandpooh, my X was very uncooperative and was refusing or holding up any paperwork centrelink or otherwise so that wasn't really an option for me, but I hope you can work it out that way