thread: Poxy matinence payments vent

  1. #1
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    Jan 2008
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    Poxy matinence payments vent

    o.k i was thinking there must be loads of ppl out there ment to be receiving poxy amounts but arnt well myn is 90 cents a day give or take a few cents its certainly NOT $1 dollar a day i think about 27 a month and i dont receive it i have not had payment for 4.5 years how about you ? I remember my mom never receiving money from dad she did it so tough we did it tough no shoes for shool and no jumpers or winter blankets for our bed. Some times no food too. I dont even want the stupid money but if i dont try to claim it i cant get paid.Stupid i wish the twit would.... i shouldn't say to be honest what i really think its not very Christian of me BTW no contact since 8 weeks old and my son is 4.5 years old.`
    i don't want contact or anything i dont even want him to have to pay but i get no choice, i feel for the women who have different circumstances from myn
    Last edited by squidipa; November 14th, 2009 at 02:16 PM.

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    Dec 2005
    Melbourne, Vic
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    My sister is entitles to $10 fortnight or someting that cheap from the father of her son and she doesn't even get that, he sees his son twice year maybe. My sister doesn't even bother going after the money she just decided he gets no say in how they run their life.
    Considering he moved back with his mum and smokes like a chimney you'd think he could put some money towards his son.

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    Apr 2008
    Melbourne
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    My dad was ordered to pay $20 a week when he and my mum split when I was 2 years old. He continued to pay $20 a week until I was 18!!! He was too mean to even increase it with inflation

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    Nov 2007
    886

    I hear ya.
    I am supposed to get 30 bucks or something a mth.
    never seen a cent.
    but heaven help me if I don't answer the phone when he calls so she can speak to him. I am denying his rights. *insert major eye rolling here*

  5. #5
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    Dec 2006
    In my own private paradise
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    the amount of child support is dependent on the income of the paying parent - if you believe he is telling furphy's about how much he earns and should be paying more, let CSA know - otherwise, for someone on a very low income (ie, c'link payments) it's normal to only be $27 a month.

    i know it seems harsh, but they are getting nothing from the govt (ftb etc) for the child, so that comes out of their income - and they still have to have enough to live on...

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    Jan 2008
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    what gets me is the fact i have to claim for it when i dont even want too. If i dont try to get it, i dont get paid. Its clear the relation ship between me and him and child and him ended then with no further contact why should I have to try to claim maintenance when i just want nothing to do with him.

  7. #7
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    Dec 2006
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    because he is financially responsible for the child! just because he decides he wants nothing to do with the child doesn't negate his responsibility! he is not a sperm donor, he is the father. whether you are still together or not, you created a child together and he is responsible for paying for contributing to it's upbringing!

    the government helps you out with support while you raise your child, provided the parents are supporting the child as well. it is not up to the tax payer or the government to support a child simply because the parent decides they dont want to. it is completely reasonable for minimum payment to be made if the caring parent won't make an effort to have the non-caring parent support their child. there are obviously exceptions to the rule (where DV is involved, or genuine cases of paternity unknown) - but simply not chasing it because the other parent is being a deadbeat is a cop out.

    the CSA will do all the chasing, so there is no need for you or your child to have any contact - but the other parent SHOULD be held responsible.

  8. #8
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    Jan 2008
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    i totally get that Bg i just think im frustrated because he wont sign adoption papers but just wants this last thing to have hooks into us.

  9. #9
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    Dec 2006
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    so it's not the maintenance at all! it's the deadbeat moron who is being a control freak

    lots of them around too

    i guess if he signs adoption papers, he is signing over all parental rights as well as the responsibilities - he's hedging his bets - your kidlet is still very dependent on you now - when he grows up a bit, he may not have the same needs from you, and deadbeat can become the "good time" dad - cos you're not going to turn around and tell him what an ass his dad was when he was little...

    people like that annoy me - but it's nothing to do with the c'link/csa side of things - it's the control freak thing!