Ok so im thinking out loud here , might not make much sense sorry lol
I truly dont see myself ever in another relationship again(after what happend with dd's dad), this might sound stupid but ive turned really negative about the whole thing.. And about males (sorry in advance to the gd ones out there) every male that has come into my life has let me down! i know what your going to say about how wrong i am and its not every male that is bad..i know theres those few out there that are good but they sure dont see me.. (sooky lala whinge)
i dont think i'll ever find anyone..which is sad.. i know, i use to be the one always believing in love and the whole thing!! now its just this bad joke that i just cant be bothered thinking about!!
So i think the point of this post is to say i think im staying single forever its easier that way...
(i thimk wat triggered this post was someone close to me said something about grace being clingy and said 'thats because you made her clingy' i was like what? and they said' aww no its just cuz well i had my husband, and you dont have anyone, you and grace only have each other" iy was said in a nice way but still got to me..)
Even said in a 'nice' way thats a little harsh, and probably a little out of line depending how you know this person!
as long as you're at peace with yourself & your decision it doesnt really matter what anyone else thinks or says. Of course Grace is clingy, she has one amazing mumma and obviously knows it
I wouldn't even think about staying single right now. You aren't long out of a relationship and you have your beautiful DD who is consuming all of your thoughts atm .
I'm sure you will one day find the man who will help you realise that they're not all bad .
As for your DD being clingy - it makes no difference if you're single or not! Both my boys have been clingy, DS2 was a shocker! We called him velcro baby and he never wanted to be out of my sight. You'd never know it know that he's 2, he's very independant! It's a developmental thing that most babies go through, good 'ol separation anxiety that only mum can fix
I know i obviously havent got the time for anyone else atm but i meant i dont see myself ever being in a relationship even in the far future..i hope im wrong though
The person who said dd was clingy was my mum.. she has a way of saying the wrong thing, she means well but it still hurts, especially when she says my babies never were like that etc she absolutly adores dd but has a diferent way of parenting to me ...obviously being in a different situation as i have to.
I agree with Trish, partner or no partner babies can be clingy - I remember my brother being pretty bad for it and to this day I still call him mummies boy - which he is to some extent, he's 30 in a couple of weeks
As for staying single, I went through a pretty messy divorce that cured me of men for quite a long time. I spent 5 years on my own, finding myself again and wouldn't change that for the world. There were times it was hard and I'd be the only single one of my friends and would think having a partner would be nice but am happy with the choice I made. I have now since remarried and he's the exact opposite of what I would have ever "gone for" before and I'm happier than I've been in years.
in the meantime just enjoy being you, enjoy being a mum & enjoy your little girl, if and when you are ready again you'll know and I'm sure everything will fall into place
Maybe someone totally awesome and out of this world might come along - and I might even have the time to do something about it if they do......but I got far better things to do right now.
It's not like having a partner is the BE ALL and END ALL of life. Some people don't get that - I'm not looking just cos I don't have a partner
mums are shockers sometimes ... and we're never going to turn out like our own !!
words of wisdom from my well meaning mother - they never do that for me, they only do that when you're here, she looks like she's dressed from the rag bag, child car seat, pah! I don't need one ...
it's only instinct to want to pull them closer when you've been through a separation.
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staying single!
!! now its just this bad joke that i just cant be bothered thinking about!!
as long as you're at peace with yourself & your decision it doesnt really matter what anyone else thinks or says. Of course Grace is clingy, she has one amazing mumma and obviously knows it
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