She just got a shocking school report - mostly fails for not handing in homework.
For this and a few other reasons, we have told her that there will be no pocket money until her next school report.
DP has been giving her money here and there for train fares into the city, coffees etc.
I have gone nuts at him and said, "no money means no money."
Anyhow, DP and I do generally agree that she should get a job. This is not to punish her but to make her manage her time better. You don't need seven hours a night to do homework but she thinks she's got all the time in the world, fluffs around and it doesn't get done.
She thinks this is unfair and that if she's going to improve at school that she can't have the distraction of a part-time job.
My other theory is that if she's doing that badly at school, she won't even finish VCE and a solid job history will stand her in good stead.
So ... my question is:
1. Do your teens who are in the crunch years at school have a part-time job? or for those without teens
2. Did you have a part-time job as a teen?
When i was 15, i wanted a job, i wanted my own money so i didn't have to ask for it. I was only allowed to work if my school work didn't suffer too much. I worked every weekend and school holidays from when i was 15 until i finished uni. In all honesty i think my school work did suffer a little, employers never were really that sympathetic to me needing time off at exam time! (oh and i did party a little too much, that probably had something to do with it as well. ) I did well in VCE, but i could have done better if i wasn't working and had applied myself a little.
I'm not sure work is a good thing if someone else is forcing her to do it iykwim? If she has no access to money and therefore wants to work to earn money then i think perhaps, you will have a more positive outcome.
On the other hand, if she doesn't want to work, as it will interfere with her school work then perhaps you could strike a deal. She gets pocket money, but only if she is putting in at school and getting the grades she is capable of. Otherwise she will need to go and earn her own money.
Personally I think it would be a bad idea to force her to get a job. Working should be something she wants to do, to gain indipendance, become a responsible adult etc. I can understand your reasons (job references, experience etc) but if she doesn't want to be there, it sounds like ot could be more detrimental, kwim? If she isn't turning up for work or has an attitude her references might not be so good. Year 11 does need a bit of study time, year 12 even more so. If she wants and can handle getting a job at this stage I think it's a great thing, but I think you'd be overloading her by making her get one.
well i got my job right at the end of yr 12 and i think it did stuff up my schooling but that was because i had a boyfriend and got lazy i rekon if i had the job earlier i would have been a lot better at using my time
I had a part time job from year 9 through to the end of year 12 and I managed to do that and all of my school work - I did my degree at Melbourne Uni so I got a good result at the end of it. It really taught me how to manage time, study, work and my budget. I say that year 11 is a perfect time for her to start learning how to balance her work and study.
I had a job from Year 9 to Year 12 and I think it was a positive thing - you can always plan in advance to take some time off around exams or due dates if you need to, but I think it was useful for time managment and also to be in a work environment before you leave school.
However, I'm not sure how you're going to make her get a job if she doesn't want one - just withold the money?, because won't she just sabotage the interview process?
I had a part time job since before I was legally allowed to, lol. I worked part time from year 9 till the end of VCE, then picked up a second part time job through most of my Uni. Still managed to get my Bachelor of Science degree with first class honours (3 majors and 2 minors). Good grades are definitely possible while holding down a part time job
I agree that good grades are possible combined with work - not sure how you go with the motivation to get that tho....certainly a desire for $$ may be the only way. IMO it is a really important lesson - gotta work hard to get good results/lifestyle etc. Good luck - let us know how you go 'cos I am SURE we will be in the same spot down the track....
p.s. I'm currently about to start year 12, although did year 11 last year through adult education courses, (dropped out in year 10 to work overseas, went back last year yada yada yada). I did that all with a part-time job, paying rent, bills, groceries, my own books, everything. I still passed year 11 with all of that, so I'm sure your DSD will be able to do it too if she wants to. I think it was Lulu who said year 11 isn't as much of a big deal; so true! I reckon withhold all $$, and once she realises there isn't any money coming in from you or her dad to buy all he things she wants, she might start enjoying the idea of a PT job more and more
I think my job saved me from insanity in year 12. BUT I did not have a social life. I went to school, studied my BUTT off and I worked to have my time out of the house.
From the 'employer' POV - If she doesn't want a job she won't appear employable. And she will not apply herself at her job and she probably won't get a shiny reference either. So when it comes to that side of things, I don't see the point. Personally I wouldn't hire someone that did not want to work. *disclaimer* this is only my personal experience in my workplace that does not mean other workplaces will have the same hiring system etc.
OK, I think we'll stick with what we're doing - withhold all pocket money, not FORCE her to get a job but just wait until she gets sick of having no money. We HAVE told her that she's getting no money until at least her first school report so this is not a surprise to her.
Her pocket money was meant to cover all her expenses - clothes and going out so basically no pocket money means we don't buy her anything. At all.
I think she's sponging off her friends at the moment. I'm sure that will wear a bit thin with them. Most of them work
If most of her friends work, and she's sponging off of them, then they will definitely be getting sick of that quite soon...they'll probably tell her to go get a job Might be a fantastic motivator, good luck
i worked from the end of year 9, part time untill year 12 exams finished, then went full time in the same job.
i find it helped me to manage my time, on the odd occasion, i'd call in 'sick' because i had too much homework. i liked having my own money, my parents couldnt afford to give me money all the time, so i knew i had to work if i wanted to buy things for myself.
I got a job at 14yrs and 9mts (the earliest you could back then). My parents told me they would still support me BUT only the necessities! They would buy me a basic school bag but if I wanted one from the surf shop I had to buy my own. They covered books, uniforms and basic stationery but I had to pay for anything else. This definitely taught me good budgeting skills from a young age and I still get asked by friends now to help them do a budget!!!
As long as you're aware of the hours she's working and keep them reasonable then she should be fine and there shouldn't be any excuses.
I got a part time job as soon as I was legally able to, and worked every afternoon 3pm-6pm then I'd come home, cook dinner, clean, do my home work and then go to bed. I didn't live with my parents from the age of 15, I was living on my own. And when I went through Uni I continued to do this, as well as a have a job as a nightfiller.
I worked from age 15. Mum was a single parent, so didn't have alot of cash. I blew most of it, but also paid for my formal dress with my own money, which I was very proud of. I find it hard to understand kids who don't want to earn their own money.
RE: Year 11 & study - I think it's different for different kids. I found the transition to Year 11 hard, but that was me. Up to them I'd been cruising, getting good grades without working hard. I really had to work harder in Year 11, but I hadn't learnt good studying behaviour (homework always late etc) and in the end, my Year 12 grades suffered. I still got into uni, but only with 2nd round offers. Looking back, I've wondered if a year off between Year 11 and 12 may have helped, if I'd been a bit more mature or had more discipline if I'd taken a break and gone back a year older. Also, I've since learnt I have ADD, which affects study behviour.
Does she know what she wants to do with her life? I think it's hard to focus on school/work etc if you don't know why you're doing it. I don't think she should be free-loading, but maybe she needs career counselling or to do work experience.
Hmm a toughie. I think you're doing the right thing in not forcing her. I wonder if a job would be the answer though, if she's struggling to apply herself? Maybe it'd just put schooling further off the agenda?
I had a part-time job during VCE and it put me under a lot of stress and pressure. I would have done a lot better in school had I had more spare time. I would sleep in and take days off school just to catch a rest (worked sat & sun). In year 10 it was fine and year 11 of little consequence, but my year 12 really suffered.
At the end of the day, her first job will teach her time management, responsibility, the value of money, etc, whether she starts it at 16 or 18, yanno? If she's not getting the most out of her education now, she'll get even less if she has to work, IMO. If she's sticking with school, she may as well get the most out of it.
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Reply With Quote) I did well in VCE, but i could have done better if i wasn't working and had applied myself a little.
i think it really depends on the person.....
Might be a fantastic motivator, good luck 
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