Took the huge step of getting rid of the dummy yesterday morning - my 2.5 year old DD was becoming more and more addicted to it -she also has an "open bite" now coz of the dreaded thing - her front top n bottom teeth don't meet - so that was another reason.
It started off being used just for sleeps and car trips, then it was used to change nappy, to get dressed, to get out of the bath, coz she was tired, coz she was upset, coz she was bored - I was over the constant whinging and whining! Yesterday she screamed for it for 2 hours - that's when I thought "I'm getting rid of it now - it couldn't possibly be worse than this!" (it was a little bit worse...!).
Managed to get her to sleep without it - read a book, distracted her, stroked her hair til she fell asleep. However, 1 hour later she woke up sweating and screaming and then she vomited on me (I don't think this was bse of dummy - I think I stupidly covered her with too many bed clothes coz she was sweaty and had kicked evrything off and then she was putting her fingers in her mouth). I then did a sympathy vomit - I felt so, so bad - it was a disaster but I had to be strong! Then DH n I put AC on, we checked hwer temp - which was normal, we cuddled her and put her to sleep btw us. She had a fitful sleep n woke about 4 times asking for dummy but settled quickly after a drink of water and more cuddles.
Anyway, my question is - those of you who cut the dummy cold turkey - how long did it take for your little one to adjust? days or weeks? - I need to prepare myself. This is killing me - I know it's for the best but it's so hard - I hate to see her so distressed. Any hints, advice or success stories would be greatly appreciated!
With most things like that I think the first 3 days are the worst. I'd be prepared for a hard week
She's old enough for you to sit her down & talk to her about it. It may help.
Goodluck
Wow, I could have written that first bit of your post! My DD is the same with dependence on her dummy. Though her teeth aren't so bad I think they are being pushed forwards a bit, which is why we have to do this too! But we have two babies with dummies...eeek! Although DS isn't too dependent on his yet. I soooo need the strength to get rid of them once and for all. You're braver than me, lol! I will be watching with interest
from memory it was pretty smooth, maybe a week or so of still asking for it. we told her it was broken, i cut the teat bit off it and she threw it in the bin herself! so i think cause she did that it was a bit easier for us.
It took about four days until dd1 no longer asked for it. The first day was the hardest but the second night she looked at me shrugged her shoulders and said no dummy. Lol. She had just turned two. It was a lot easier than I thought it would be. I was ready for a month of hell. But she's adjusted really well. We told her that the dummy fairy was taking her dummy. I remind her of that when she asks very rarely now. My dd2 still has one but dd1 is totally ok with it. I was dreading that too lilias. Hang in there. She will get used to it. Be firm and don't give in. I've seen people give in and it's even harder then the second time. Good on you for biting the bullet. It's a tough step to take I would try to explain to her where or why her dummy has gone as she might be wondering why it's suddenly gone without warning. Just a suggestion
I explained to DD that mummy threw them away - she actually saw me throw them into the backyard in a fit of rage (I know - bad, bad mummy!). Then we said that the birds picked them up and flew away with them but if she was a good girl she will get a "surprise" tomorrow for being brave- which kind of settled her. I should have also explained that she was actually really good (considering) during the day yesterday coz she had her beloved cousins to play with for most of the day and in the evening we visited my cousin who had a newborn baby- and "no dummy". It was just that bad patch at night that was really bad. I'm at work at the moment though so I don't know how my mum is handling it - I'm scared to ring n check - guess we'll see how she goes this arvo and into the night.
You are right about being at the point of no return - there is no way I can re-introduce them - I have to bite the bullet - surely she can't be distressed forever?! The guilt however is killing me!
Oh I felt terrible guilt about getting rid of her dummy. I was in tears the first night because she was sobbing so much that it broke my heart. but in the end, she settled so well without it that I realised that it wasn't a need, it was habit. So I felt much better about it all. She's become a lot more outgoing and seems happier without it. She's so much chattier. It will improve and dummies will be all a distant memory. I think what you have told her is perfect and she will accept it and soon you won't have to talk about it at all. She will adjust. They all do. Be prepared that the tantrums may seem worse because you no longer have a dummy to rely on to settle them down. But really they are the same as they always were. It's good for them to learn a little self settling at this age anyway. Let us know how she went today
We recently got rid of DD's (beginning of Jan). She will be 3 at the end of Feb. I won't lie - the first week was hell. It took a lot of patience and creativity to adjust her sleeping and settling. We thought that after a week she'd be used to it... but she wasn't. Don't get me wrong, she was a LOT better... but she'd still ask for it when she was extremely upset and her sleeping went out the window (up to 2 hours to settle at night ). DD had been a dummy hider and would hide them all over the house for when she "needed" them. She found one at about the 2 week mark which seriously put us back (so I advise get them all out the house!!!!).
I was just about to give in and give her the dummies back (everyone kept telling me that she would give them up when she was ready) when she found one in her room, brought it out to me and said "Mummy, here, put this in the box. I don't need it - I'm a big girl!" I was so excited and proud of her! We haven't looked back since!!!! It took us close to a month.
Oh, one thing I noticed was that DD would tell me at night "Mummy, I just need something in my mouth" which proved to me it was habit. Once we broke the habit we were fine!
but keep in mind, every child is different and will respond differently. Your child may take very little time to adjust or may take a bit longer like mine.
Here is an update - so far so good! But the day and the week are still young!
I couldn't believe the transfomation in my DD yesterday - she is so calm n happy it is almost scary - now she happily plays n changes activities, she chats more and she only asked for it once when I got home - she took it well - I said "remember the birds took it" - she said "the red one?" - I said "yes, that one too - nevermind, let's go n play with the playdough" - and that was it.
I think it is almost a relief for her too coz now she knows it's gone she can't obsess about it all the time and keep wondering about how she can get it. We've had a massive reduction in whinging (that was the main thing she whinged about).
She settled so well without it last night- we read a story and then she cuddled teddy and rolled over n went to sleep. She woke up about 3 hours later and we put her in our bed (I am fine with this until she settles - at least sleeping with us wont worsen her open bite!).
I hope this lasts and is not the "calm before the storm". Will see how she goes today - day three of the dummy-free regime!
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cut dummy cold turkey - how long til she adjusts?
I would try to explain to her where or why her dummy has gone as she might be wondering why it's suddenly gone without warning. Just a suggestion
). DD had been a dummy hider and would hide them all over the house for when she "needed" them. She found one at about the 2 week mark which seriously put us back (so I advise get them all out the house!!!!).
I was so excited and proud of her! We haven't looked back since!!!! It took us close to a month.
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