FDC - need reassurance please!

[hj1981]

Well Miss B starts with her day care mum tomorrow night for the 1st time from 5pm-8pm - we are starting a week early so i can get use to it and her 1st night isnt on my 1st night at uni, also DH and i are going to use it so we can go to dinner together for the 1st without her!
So my worry is - its only occassional care usually from 5pm-7/8pm 1 day a week but not ever day - the Day care mum told me today that on the thursdays we need care her daughter has soccer training so she will need to take B with her - we have never let anyone else drive with Miss B in the car or anyone else take her anywhere - let alone of a night time!
Someone please tell me she will be fine!
I do like her Day care mum and im looking forward to it all but this has me so nervous and worried!

[UntoldAngel]

My friends' mum worked as a FDC provider and she would take the kids on little field trips once a week. I'm pretty sure there are very strict guidelines for who can become a FDC provider too
Just make sure that she has an approved carseat for Miss B and that it is fitted correctly. I'm sure if she has her own daughter in the car, she isn't going to drive like a maniac and put your daughter at risk. Maybe you could ask to see her certificate of currency for her motor vehicle insurance to check she is comprehensively insured (my sister required this to work as an aged care nurse when visiting clients as she can take them shopping etc) however I'm not sure how she would react to this.
Good luck

[BrightSparkles]

hun I'm sure it will all be fine.
Being a FDC mum they do this all the time. Has she had kids at night before? I know they have quite extensive checks etc.

And you could ask the DC mum to call or text you to let you know everything is ok... will put your mind at ease. xx

[hj1981]

Belle - a friend of mine is has her as a day care mum for her daughter and she is happy with the way she drives, and ur right she has her own daughter so she won't drive like a lunatic!

Sunshine - u must be getting sick of hearing me stress about all this!
she mentioned she has had a kid stay over night once - but Miss B isn't staying the night! i guess im also worried about her losing my girl or not keeping an eye on her and she gets kidnapped! silly isn't it!

[BrightSparkles]

Belle - a friend of mine is has her as a day care mum for her daughter and she is happy with the way she drives, and ur right she has her own daughter so she won't drive like a lunatic!

Sunshine - u must be getting sick of hearing me stress about all this!
she mentioned she has had a kid stay over night once - but Miss B isn't staying the night! i guess im also worried about her losing my girl or not keeping an eye on her and she gets kidnapped! silly isn't it!

Hun. It's not silly at all!! Your her mum it's normal to worry! If she's a good day care mum she will do whatever she can to make it a smooth transition for you also.

[danniellabella]

My FDC lady takes 4 infant to 4 year olds in the car every day to pick up the 3 school aged kids she has for after school care. (she has a big van fully fitted with appropriate child restraints which is checked once a month by her field worker).

[sassy123]

there will be a form you will have to fill out to say you give permission for your daughter to go aswell. and you are not aloud to take kids int eh car unless your car has been checked and seated fitted properly by a rta registered person.
so aslong as she has the permission form and the RTA certificate everything will be fine.

[hj1981]

She will definatly keep an eye on my girl while they are out wont she? she wont lose her or anything will she?

[BrightSparkles]

She will definatly keep an eye on my girl while they are out wont she? she wont lose her or anything will she?

She will have a close eye on your baby girl, and i'm extremely sure she won't lose her or hurt her or anything even similar. xx

[hj1981]

okay i will try and stop stressing so much! She has her 1st visit with her day care mum tonight - so hopefully i will feel heaps better after tonight!

[BrightSparkles]

I will be thinking about you hun i'm sure everything will be fine. Let us know how you go. xxx

[hj1981]

Okay so DD has had her 1st visit with her FDC mum the other night - she was a big clingy to me to start off with, but we didn't stay for long, gave instructions and pretty much left, no tears from DD, but tears from me!
DH and i went out to dinner 1st time without her! i hated every second of it and thought about DD constantly! Twas a looong dinner! what ever did we do with our time before her?
Came time to pick her up and she ran straight over to me, and wouldn't let me put her down!
Apparently she was fine the whole time! however she was very quiet on drive home and when we got home - made me think Hmmmm what happened to her?
I wish she could talk!
Overall everything was okay! FDC mum also told me inregards to the thursdays she is just planning on sitting in the car with Miss B and reading some books and watching the training (which im happy with) and maybe letting her out for a bit of a run around! the drive still scares me so im just going to have her msg me when they arrive hopefully safetly!

[BrightSparkles]

I"m glad to hear it went well. She might have been quiet because she was so tired because she had so much fun!
It will be hard the first time but it does get easier. xxx