Wishing Well.... giving Money as a wedding gift.. stuck on how much..

[*Beema*]

Wedding is of my Cousin, have had very little to do with them for the last 10 years, but did catch up a couple fo eyars ago and had a good catchup.

But my dilema is I have no idea what is reasonable as a Wishing Well gift.
Dh, DD and myself are going, do you put in an amount per person or a general figure, how do you work out how much to give...?

[Mad Scientist]

We usually put in $100 as that's how much we'd spend if they had a registry or something.....really close friends we put in more. Maybe I'm stingy cos I have no idea what other people do... It's really hard to know isn't it?

[*TripleJ*]

i know a lot of ppl gave us 100 but they were close family and my mums old work mate handed me 150 and said u know i dont give gifts lol anyway probably in ur situation id say 50 like family but not close isnt that how much ud usually spend on a pressie anyway for a wedding

[Olive]

we always do $50 for engagement and $100 for a wedding

[LimeSlice]

Depends on how close the person but my general rule is $100 (and it goes as from the Beema Family.

Very close family get more thoug, our 'cousins' both recently got married, they got $1000 from us, in memory of my mum who died shortly before the first wedding.

[Visitor7]

Immediate family members got $1000, good friends got between $100-$200 (depending how good of a friend they are), distant relatives got $50-$100.

[~Hestia~]

I'd probably give $100.
Someone once told me that they estimate how much per head the function cost (say $50 per head for food) & give that amount per family member. Hope that makes sense!!

[Cassius2]

we arent flush so we give $50 for distant friends/relatives and $100 for close ones.

[*TripleJ*]

wow i must be cheap or really broke i wish we go 1000 from close family lol we would have been rich

[~clover~]

Only people very close gave us $100. The rest gave us $50. DH's boss gave $30 & the office ladies at his work put in $20 each, so $60.
So if it was me, I'd give about $50.

[*Beema*]

Thankyou all for your suggestions, it is sucha tricky thing to work out and generally I go and buy a really nice gift of crystal glasses or somehting similar (and generally pick them up on special) but spend has been somewhere between $50 and $100.

The most we have spent is on some very close friends (much closer than these cousins ) and we gave them $200, everyone else has been gifts.

At least I have a figure I can work to now!
Thankyou so much xxoo

[Cherished]

Hi Beema, I would advise to only give what you can afford, if it's $50 that will be fine, if you can afford more and want to give more than by all means give more. I think people get a bit hung up on what they are 'expected' to do, heck if you only put $20 in there it's not like you will be struck off their christams card list KWIM? The bottom line is that the bride and groom have invited you there to celebrate their wedding and life together not to get money and gifts from everyone. I hope you enjoy the wedding

OH I didn't give my brother anything in his wishing well or a gift for that matter and he was very close family, I just couldn't afford it 5 years ago, I didn't give him any explanation and he didn't ask about it either... Do you think he cared??? No way, he was just happy that I was there!

[Liviam]

We did a wishing well for our wedding (we got an awesome lounge suite) and we were gifted between $20 and $1500. The average was between $50 - $80 though. I am a firm believer of gifting what you can afford. Best of luck with your decision.

[smiles4u]

.... seeing it's *3* of you going & even though he is a relo you aint close to him so i would give between $60-$100, depending on what you can afford & also depending on if it's a lavish reception or something simple IYKWIM !!