Hi Beema, I would advise to only give what you can afford, if it's $50 that will be fine, if you can afford more and want to give more than by all means give more. I think people get a bit hung up on what they are 'expected' to do, heck if you only put $20 in there it's not like you will be struck off their christams card list KWIM? The bottom line is that the bride and groom have invited you there to celebrate their wedding and life together not to get money and gifts from everyone. I hope you enjoy the wedding

OH I didn't give my brother anything in his wishing well or a gift for that matter and he was very close family, I just couldn't afford it 5 years ago, I didn't give him any explanation and he didn't ask about it either... Do you think he cared??? No way, he was just happy that I was there!