Do you approach?

[The[cookie]Doctor]

I have issues with social occassions, etc.

Recently I tried to help myself by beginning to organise something.

It was "taken over" by someone else.

I know it shouldn't be a big deal, but because of my reluctance towards social outings - to me, it is.

I don't know whether to say something or not??

The way I would normally deal with this (read: not really deal with it) is next time saying "This is what I am doing, you may join me if you wish" - but I realise this is sort of P/A. Part of me considered not attending.

So, should I say something? Y'know - "Hey I understand it was not your intention but this was important to me, and I want to let you know how I am feeling because I don't want it to get in the way of us being friends"?

I am not good at moving forward - and I felt that maybe moving forward with this would help the social thing as well?

[AnyDream]

This depends on whether the thing you organised was a once-off or whether it's an ongoing thing that you want to reclaim. If it was a once-off, I'm not sure it's helpful to bring it up after the event, but perhaps you could use it as an opportunity to practice asserting yourself/your boundaries for the next time this sort of issue comes up. If however it's something that is on going (ie weekly fortnightly monthly etc) then definitely bring it up now, before the person who "took over" gets too entrenched in the role.

Be aware that the person may be completely unaware that they have "taken over" - perhaps they feel that they have been helping out. Maybe you didn't voice your plans/vision clearly enough, and they thought it was just an idea that needed someone to pick it up and run, kwim? So, think about the choices you made along the way to speak or not speak, and identify what held you back. Sometimes you've just got to open you mouth and plunge in, even if it's uncomfortable to do so. Trying to show that you have thought about the other person's feelings while you do this is an added bonus, it helps make it more of a discussion and less of an opportunity for conflict, kwim?

Anyway I think you're fantastic for thinking about this and trying to work on it. Remember, to become confident you need to act confident first (fake it until you make it).

[LimeSlice]

hmm Is it what I am thinking of?

I think you should, why not? Be strong hun and say what you think!

[Kazbah]

Definately approach ...

ETA : Maybe next time, have discussion with someone you can work with, so you aren't necc all alone in organisng, but rather working as part of a team?