Spending Dinner with a LTTC'er and we are pregnant with our second

[*Beema*]

Tonight we are going out for dinner with one of our lovely Uni friends for her birthday, another close friend of both of ours and her DH are also coming. 3 years ago at the same girls birthday they "announced" that they were going to start trying to get pregnant, and to date haven't been successful Both are approaching Mid 30's fit healthy etc, and they are excited about catching up tonight with us as we are to catch up with them.

I felt horrible when we announced DD's impending arrival and I feel so sad and guilty that we are doing it again tonight, everytime we catch up the first thing I look for is a glass of wine in her hand

And now that is is 3 long years and tonight the anniversary of that announcement it breaks my heart. And we have conceived twice with little effort. When DD was born we didn't hear from them for a few months and I completely understood.

We don't know if they are trying IVF or anything like that as it hasn't been discussed, I feel that it is too hard for them to speak about it, but I want them to know we support them and are there for them. I have another friend going through IVF and we are supporting her where we can, and she is more open about it.

Would you mention that you know someone else going through it so that if they want tot alk there is a "opening" int he conversation as such, or just let it be?

It is hard when you want to be there for someone, but we might be the wrong people for that....

[Tegam]

i think all you can do is be open and honest. Thinking of you!

[maybub]

How did you go?

Hope all went well and your friends are as happy for you as they should be, you've been through a fair bit yourself...

[ladybird11]

I guess it depends on how well you know the couple perhaps, and how comfortable you'd feel talking about it with them?

Maybe you could try and have a 'back up' conversation to fall back on should they say they'd rather not go into it all?

[*Beema*]

THanks girls Bad timing on posting my thread seeing as BB went down not long after

It was so lovely to catch up with them. My heart broke when I saw her with a Kilkenny cream when we walked in

But, she gave me the warmest hug when we arrived and said how happy and sorry she was for us, it was so genuine, and that she had read our Blog

They then grabbed DD as soon as we arrived had a ball playing with her, and sat with us for dinner. They asked us alot of questions about what pram we had, routines, sleep times, feeding, what types of food we give her and how, all sorts of really detailed questions. We also spoke about genes as she said DD was all DH, and I agreed I didn't even get a toe in she said how her DH's genes were very strong as well, based on all their cousins etc it seems as though his side of the family is significantly stronger.

So it was a wonderful evening and it didn't come into the conversation in anyway, so we never dicussed it.

On our way out they had left just before us, they were waiting for us gave us another hug and said that if they didn't see us before bubs arrived that they wished us all the very best. So beautiful....

I do hope their time is very soon whether is be by IVF, Adoption or Natural Conception. Such beautiful caring people, they would make the most wonderful parents.... life can be so unfair...

[ladybird11]

I'm sending heaps of baby vibes their way :-)