DH & I are TTC #2 at the moment.
Yesterday I was sitting snuggling with DD and I got so sad.. I started thinking about how I will have less time to snuggle with her when we have another bub - It made me cry (Its makng me cry now thinkng about it now..)
I cant stand the thought of her missing out on time with me when I have another bub
I know that it will work out and I know that I will still have pleanty of mum and DD time even with a new bub - Im just struggling with the thouht at the moment!
Im guessing that we all think these things when we are thinking of expandin our familes...
Please tell me that it works out ok! I know that there ate pleanty of BB mummes our there that have enough time and love for more than one bubba!
Its just a huge thing to get my head around and Im not even preg yet!
I'm normal if you are! I feel this too. I love my gorgeous girl so much, how could I possibly share myself with someone else and deprive myself of her cuddles??! I know everyone says you just find more love, but its a daunting prospect.
I know exactly what you mean. I can't imagine it either.
Makes me sad too
But I never imagined I would love DD this much and it will be the same with a new baby. I remember feeling sad before DD was born that it wouldn't be just me and DH anymore. But I had nothing to worry about, it's so much better now!
I soooo know what you mean! I felt like this too which is why dp and I didn't want to ttc for ages. Dp and Ava are like 2 peas in a pod and he adores her and vice versa and I didn't want her to feel "left out" kwim. But then I thought I was pregnant and did a Pregnancy test that came back negative and I felt sad. So now we are pregnant and although I still worry about it, I think because we are concious of it we'll do our best to make sure she's involved with all the doctors appointments and scans and stuff and get her to feel like 'the big sister' kwim?
While I am soooo excted about TTC and even getting preg - little things just make me wonder! I know that I will have time for both and I have more than enough love.. just get worried about how things will change!
KL - I love the idea of involving Bella in all the scans and things! Great idea!!
I'm going through the same thing at the moment, and it's so nice to know that I'm not the only one feeling like this!!
It's taken a long time for me to even contemplate having another bub, but I've started looking at the bigger picture and of what I'm giving my DS (a sibling, a mate, someone to play with etc) rather than what I'm taking away from him. Sure, the first year or two are going to be tough, and I won't have as much time as I do now, but it won't be forever and I'm sure I'll definitely have enough love for both.
Thanks for starting this thread, it's made me feel so much better knowing I'm not alone
Totally normal. You're right though, I think each and everyone of us has worried about this at some point.
I have no idea how, but you do manage.
Imagine how much you love Bella now....with two there isn't half each, there's twice as much.
Nothing like a cuddle from DD after a hard day's work!
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I think everyone has feelings of sadness when you know things will change around your comfort zone. As you can see im ttc #2 but for me i feel sad that i may not give DD a brother or sister as I know she will be a great big Sister.
I feel sad knowing that she's going to grow up and being left out because most of my friends and brothers and sisters are far from having children any time soon.
We always worry, I guess its just human nature to do so.
I'm sure you will definitely have lots of love for all your children and your DD will always have a special place in you and your DH's heart (as with all first borns =)
I didn't have the same level of concern that you did when we were TTC but I am now starting to worry about it now that #2 is almost here! I know it will all be fine and plenty of mums have done it and continue to do it, but I am still worrying!
I think it is great to look at it from the point of view of the firstborn and what you are giving them, as one of the PPs said, which I hadn't quite done yet.
I love my big sister - we are so close, she's my best friend after DH and I am so excited to be giving DD that same sort of relationship - even though its a brother for her! Siblings share so much, including mum and dad's love
When pg with DS2 I often wondered if it was possible to love another child as much as I loved DS1. But ya know what - I love DS2 just the same as I do DS1. If you're capable of love, then there's definitely enough love to go round .
In the very early days DS2 absorbed more of my time, but DH and my parents stepped up to the mark and when I wasn't in the position to give DS1 cuddles immediately, one of them did. And DS1 and I had our cuddles as soon as we could. Yes, it's a bit of a juggling act to start with to give your first child the attention they once had - and I'd be lying if I said they get exactly the same attention they once had after the second bubba is born - but I found we all adapted reasonably well. Somehow, it works. Just trust yourself and give your family a little bit of time to adapt.
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Its normal to feel like this... right??
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