thread: xp has someone in the picture. He wants me to meet.

  1. #1
    BellyBelly Member

    Oct 2008
    Over The Rainbow
    1,142

    xp has someone in the picture. He wants me to meet.

    So i was talking to xp on fb last nite. And he was talking to me then told me hes started seeing someone recently and wanted to know if id be comftable meeting her if she was to come down this way..(as they both live around brisbane) they must have only started dating(which explains why he has been so nice lately.)

    i dont have a problem with it and told him id love to meet her etc. as it means hes beiing honest n it will be gd to know and find out if shes a gd person if she'll be around dd when xp has her.

    i dnt really no what the point of writing this post is as i know ive done the right thing,

    this is going to sound weird but today my mind hasnt switched of..im trying to remind myself that it doesnt bother me that im glad hes happy but theres this part of me thats hurt that he could love someone thats not me..its been almost 2 years but i keep asking myself what does she has that i didnt have.

    im over the angry part of what happened ive learnt to accept everything the way it is..i guess im just left with curiosity at what could have been..

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    Registered User

    Mar 2007
    outer South East Melbourne
    2,881

    I think it's good that he's being upfront about it. Sounds a much nicer way of meeting her than what happened to me. I came across my ex at the shops in a jewelery store with his new GF who he has been insisting is just a friend. I was shocked as he had cancelled coming to see our son that morning and I got really nasty. I would have much preferred to have met her in a nice organised way like you are getting the chance to do.

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    BellyBelly Life Subscriber

    Jul 2008
    Eastern Surburbs, Melbourne
    1,841

    Alot of growing up has probably occurred within the last 2 years.
    It is good that he is being so upfront about this girl. If they are going to have your DD she might want to know about you but she also might have heard horror stories from others about meeting 'the exwife' and not want to go there.
    Sure, you are hurt and will ask the why questions but if you know the breakup was for the best you will have peace of mind.
    Hope it all works out for you both

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    BellyBelly Member

    Oct 2008
    Over The Rainbow
    1,142

    Rivlas-hes only just started having dd, with his mum mostly unsupervised, i agree im happy hes been so honest and upfront with me, ( asthats what i did with him when i started geting a bit more serious with now dp so he got to meet and know who dd would be spending time with) i guess i just didnt expect it. things are alot better with xp which is gd. im not complaining.

    Satya- how horrible i would have been angry too hun !

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    BellyBelly Member

    Oct 2008
    Over The Rainbow
    1,142

    i did abit of fb stalking to see who she is.. and shes gorgeous! i really dont know why i looked.. arh

    i know shes probaly i really nice person as long as she i dont have a prob with her.

    didnt hear from xp last week so he didnt come see dd apparently there coming up this w.e from seeing something on fb, but im yet to hear from him that hes coming up and wants to see dd.

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    Registered User

    Jul 2009
    557

    aww hun, speaking from experience try not to 'stalk' on fb. I learnt the hard way
    I hope your XP gets in contact and comes to see DD

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    Registered User

    Dec 2007
    Sunny Qld
    14,682

    Awww honey, she's probably done a bit of facebook stalking and seen how gorgeous you are!!! So she's probably feeling the same way

  8. #8

    Feb 2008
    With my awesome cherubs
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    :yeahthat: its always hard meeting the exs new gf especially when you have kids together i remember the first time XP told me about his gf then within 6 months she was pregnant and they got married fingers crossed that all goes smoothly just think of the gorgeous Grace if you feel its getting too much when you meet her our babies will always guide us through

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    Add Cupcake on Facebook

    Nov 2008
    North Haven, NSW
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    Im a FB stalker too LOL.

    I agree with Arimeh tho, she's probably just as scared as you are! Especially meeting little G! Adults can sensor themselves when it comes to critism, kids however not so much hehe.

    I hope it all goes well lovely x

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    2014 BellyBelly RAK Recipient.

    Apr 2010
    In the mad house at loopy land
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    I also think she is prob scared to meet you to.You know the whole being the ex and having his child ect. Dont stress to much hun