In less than three months we will have another baby in the house . I cant believe how quickly this preg has gone and now that we are coming to the home stretch i am scared. DS is being very full on at the moment. He is constantly getting into things he shouldn't (had a very scary experience last week), constantly climbs on things that he shouldn't and is always trying to get into spaces and areas that he shouldn't. I feel like all i do all day is say no and i just dont know how i can do it with a newborn. When i look back to the newborn days with ds he needed so much attention and i dont know how i can do it for the new bub with him being so adventurous!
To top that off i dont feel like we are ready for this baby at all. With ds i had everything organized and furniture was on lay by etc and this time the nursery is still a dumping room that needs to be painted and dh is so busy at work that on weekends he just doesn't have the energy to paint etc. I have this feeling that at this stage i would really like this baby to stay in as i just dont know how i can juggle everything. Im starting to feel really anxious about it all and i guess im just looking for assurance that im not the only one that has felt this way and that things will be ok lol. I already feel like a mess so im scared what will happen when the baby actually comes.
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I would invest in a sling if you don't already have one. Your new baby will be happiest snuggled up against you. I would also think about a playpen for the tiny bub, so you can pop them somewhere safe when you need to do things. Do you have a rocker? They are awesome (I wish I had one for DD) and that could go in a playpen and keep the little one happy whilst you tend to DS.
My DD is a similar age and I agree she is SO much more adventurous every day. She tried to eat the toilet flush thingy today!!
Anxiety isn't good for you or the bub...try and go with the flow and remember each day is so different and you cannot anticipate how it will be. You need to trust you will be fine...and you will be!!!!!
Hun, just like the thought of having one was a bit bewildering, you'll also find the thought of having two bewildering at times too - but you will also adapt to it :-)
I had moments of 'yay, number two is on the way' and also thoughts of 'uh oh, what am I getting myself into' - all at the same time sometimes!!!
I certainly can't and wont speak for everyone out there, but I also got a bit slack on the preparation side of things when number 2 was on his way.
Make up a busy box of little toys that'll grab your first borns attention and hopefully keep him outta mischief when you've got to deal with number 2. Things like crayons, paper, blocks, soft toys, and if all else fails some favourite DVD's to occupy his mind (The Wiggles have saved me many times lol!).
Don't doubt yourself hun, you'll be an awesome mumma to two gorgeous boys :-)
It will seem overwhelming because its new. Having a new baby is overwhelming anyway, whether its your 1st, 2nd, or 16th. You will cope - because we just do. You will find ways to work things that work for you
Definitely have a box of toys set aside for your toddler when the baby needs feeding. Or all remotes to the tv close by.. LOL.. or a set of special books that are only read at that time.. or snacks. Heaps of ways to distract a toddler.
You'll be fine!!!
Just rememeber that the first few months are by far the hardest, then the baby is usually feeding less and for less time, demanding less time for you to be sitting down with them, so you can pop them in the sling and dance with your toddler or something to work off some energy.
Dancing and music is very important in this house, I probably wouldn't survive otherwise. The mood is just lifted with good music - today the two big kids were whinging beyond belief and DH put some michael jackson on - whinging stopped and laughing began - awesome
You're a great mum to one, and you'll be a bloody fantastic mum to two. Have faith in yourself love, cos we have faith in you!!!
Thanks ladies, Arimeh you made me cry (and no its not pregnancy hormones).
I know all you are saying is right, i was probably as apprehensive with ds as he was our first and we were first time parents learning the ropes. In a way the unknown was exciting though as we learn't together and this time i know how hard it can be and how overwhelming i found some aspects of having a baby (and all in all we were really luky with ds). I just need to get that excitement of the unknown back lol.
DS is certainly not a toddler that will sit and watch telly or play with a box of toys, he is much too busy for that so hopefully i can get used to feeding in a sling or something very quickly to make my life easy. Then again three months is a long time in the life of a toddler so i keep telling myself that ds will be different by then and may actually enjoy some down time every now and then
No advice but just wanted you to know you're not alone - I'm in the same boat with five weeks to go, just moved house and nothing set up. It'll all come together though, always does.
Yikes, Im getting scared.
. I cant believe how quickly this preg has gone and now that we are coming to the home stretch i am scared. DS is being very full on at the moment. He is constantly getting into things he shouldn't (had a very scary experience last week), constantly climbs on things that he shouldn't and is always trying to get into spaces and areas that he shouldn't. I feel like all i do all day is say no and i just dont know how i can do it with a newborn. When i look back to the newborn days with ds he needed so much attention and i dont know how i can do it for the new bub with him being so adventurous! 
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