Does your 5YO tell you little porkies? Is it normal behaviour? I keep catching DSD out telling lies and im just curious if this is normal? Not necessarily huge lies or anything but when she gets in trouble she tends to bend the truth...
I can tell when she's making something up, especially if i ask her what she's doing and i get "umm...ahh...um...im...um" its like she's thinking of something to say..
My 4yo does tend to try to blame someone else if there's a toy broken or something similar, but she does it knowing I know she's fibbing (no Mum, wasn't me, it was Angus - who hasn't been here for six months). I don't know if that makes sense, but she's just being a bit cheeky when she does it, more than anything. She *knows* I won't buy it. I brush it off and don't make a big deal of it, usually a bit of a joke and then reinforce the behaviour I want (you know you should take better care of your toys and next time, please bring it to me if it happens).
I think it's perfectly normal for kids to avoid getting in trouble for something they know they shouldn't have done. My DD told her first fib before she was two! I had to make a quick exit to laugh. It's less funny as they get older, I'll give you.
Yes it's normal but it drives me up the wall when DS1 does it. The other day he told me his best friend (also my friend's son) punched him in the stomach, got in trouble from the teacher, and they were no longer friends. It took hours to get to the truth (they were playing a Thomas the Tank Engine game called Bumpers which involved crashing into each others tummies) no-one got in trouble and they are still best friends. I think he thought he would be in trouble if he told us he let someone hit him, and hit him back as part of the game, so he came up with a really long and fantastic story
Lol Jennifer, 2! Yes DSD pulled something off her bed (apart of the bed) then said it was an accident...
Am a little relieved to know its common tho!
Edit: Traveller it annoys me too, a lot; (not that i get angry with her) but i think thats something i need to work on within myself, seperating her lies from adult lies if that makes sense?
Fantastic sign their creative brain is developing. Also, when they come to you with some far fetch tale and they look as though they've convinced themselves - they probably have. At this point in their development they can sometimes confuse when reality begins and ends.
Enjoy the age and encourage story telling at the right times and perhaps asking things like "really, are you sure that's what happened?" when you need the truth (not in a reprimanding way, more a curious way). This helps reinforce truth vs stories xx
My son is a bit of a fibber too. Last year when he was about 3 and 1/2 the preschool teacher pulled me aside to tell me he had lied about something. I, of course, said "oh no, how terrible", or something along those lines, but she just said "you know it means he's very clever." Well, that's OK then!
Like Jennifer13 wrote, sometimes he knows I'm not going to buy it - its just a little game. But sometimes, like tonight he thought he was really going to pull one over me. I was feeding him something he didn't particularly love for dinner. He takes the mouth full, runs off 'for a wee' and comes back and says "look mum, I finished the food." Nice try kido...
my 2 year old daughter comes up with stories about her twin biting her saying "naughty Drew bit me" then sighing and tutting. She is usually showing me a scratch at the time! I guess that means she is going to be a genius of sorts!
Nina is a fibber! And I can see her thinking of what excuse/lie to make up before I even ask her the question lol.
As frustrating as it is though, it's perfectly normal.
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5YO Bending The Truth?
I had to make a quick exit to laugh. It's less funny as they get older, I'll give you.
muchly appreciated!!
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