Is this normal?

[jesses_girl]

I feel like every good deed i do should result in a thank you or some sort of acknoledgement sp? DP doesnt feel the need to have a thank you or anything, when he does something like vacuum or polish my car i say thank you and he says i dont need a thank you emma. Im starting to get a complex about it lol Do you need acknolegement?

[Purple Penguin]

It depends on what it's for... I wouldn't expect a thank you for vacuuming but a thank you for dinner is nice to hear. but that's just me.

[*star*]

I'm a big one for thank you's! I think it's important to acknowledge when someone has done something worthwhile. Especially if it was something I had been intending to do myself and hadn't gotten there yet.

I don't think there's anything wrong with being polite and showing your appreciation.

However, you can't always expect that others will hold the same value for the phrase, so anything that comes back my way, I welcome, but won't get put out if I don't get it.

[Babyluv]

I like to here a thankyou, I always thank DH when he does things around the house and he always thanks me. It's nice to know your hard work is noticed and appreciated.
Have you read ' The Five Love Languages' it's a really good book that I read before we got married, DH read it too. It talks about how everyone shows and receives love differently. Some ppl might find gifts show them love or that words of affirmation are how they feel loved. Everyone has a diff Love Language and if yours and your DH's are diff it teaches how you can show that person how much you love them through their love language.
Might sound a bit corny, but I found it really helpful, if you re aware of what makes your partner feel loved and appreciated you can do little things that make them really happy.
This is probably off track from what you're talking about but def a good book to read

[BeautifulMadness]

i think its just a good feleing letting someone know you are thankful for doing an act without asking them.

[Lulu]

Ummm, I suppose it depends on what you consider a "good deed". I don't think vacuuming is! Maybe your DH doesn't need to be thanked because he feels it's just part of every day stuff. I wouldn't thank my partner for vacuuming OUR house iykwim?

[sloane]

i'm a big one for thanking people but i don't expect to be thanked...well, not for household stuff. if my DP vacuumed the house i'd be more likely to say 'nice one' than thank you!

i have found it a tough transition from work to being a SAHM in that i have no idea how i'm going. well, i mean - we're all still here & we are fed & have clean clothes (most of the time) but there's no feedback like there is at work. i find that a little weird seeing i'm a bit driven by results.