CRANKY as H*** 4 yr old - HELP!

[Vixstar]

OMG - Bailey has become such a cranky 4 yr old. Is this normal???? Honestly sometimes I think he will blow a gasket!

[~Kim~]

I dunno if it's normal, but we are working through anger issues here too.....

[Nelle]

I sent mine outside with a couple of 'nicey poles' today. I don't know what's 'normal' either.

[*Belle*]

OMG Vixstar we are going through this too, I told her today im sick of her "attitude", I shall we watching your thread with interest, as I need help too!

[shellbell3]

Us too! Attitude, asking for something or to do something and if I say no she does anyway. And we seem to have tantrum behaviour back too. Screamed today cause I made her bring her rubbish in from the car and had a screaming fit yesterday cause I told her to pick up her tissue herself! And she is so stubborn too, always has been so makes things even harder.

[Nelle]

Is it the weather?

[*Belle*]

omg whats with our Sept babies? gone wild?

[Visitor7]

It's the Sept babies for sure! Nina is doing it. She's had timeout 3 times today (obviously that aint working well lol)

[Nelle]

A shout out to Kim's May 06 kiddo though - smoothing the cranky path for 4 year olds born later.

[Mak]

I have a Juney that is pushing me to the limit atm!!!! I haven't been to successful with dealing with her anger and frustration lately - we're back to doing laps of the washing line/yard and bouncing on the tramp to try and dissipate the energy build up! (Work for me too, lol).
Dunno but Miss 4 here seems to be responding to DD2 hitting the 2's with a vengence. I have heard that boys have a testosterone surge at 4 tho, not that that explains our angst!!! We have one fierce negotiator here....it is exhausting! xx

[~Kim~]

lol thanks Nelle

maybe it's the Year of the Dog babies???

Mak...mine too!! Just as DS has ramped it up, so has she!

[~Lashes~]

i think its a age thing, like how they say "terrible twos" only my boys seemed to skip that, and ds1 got this foul mood arround the time he turned 4, he would yell and scream at you, punch and kick the walls, throw and try to smash toys... gets the s**ts if i tell him off or say no. hes just turned 5, and were developing ways for him to "controll" his temper, some days it dont work, but he is starting to learn how not to react, but now my 3yr old is picking up the bad attitude (and he is worse than the older one was!) hope you find ways to calm your littlies down!

[Vixstar]

I have a Juney that is pushing me to the limit atm!!!! I haven't been to successful with dealing with her anger and frustration lately - we're back to doing laps of the washing line/yard and bouncing on the tramp to try and dissipate the energy build up! (Work for me too, lol).
Dunno but Miss 4 here seems to be responding to DD2 hitting the 2's with a vengence. I have heard that boys have a testosterone surge at 4 tho, not that that explains our angst!!! We have one fierce negotiator here....it is exhausting! xx

Aahh yes I forgot about the testosterone surge! I read about that in Steve Biddulph's Raising Boys........so I know WHAT it is just need to wrok out HOW to combat it! The book just says "dads will like this age"......best tell his Daddy! lol

Noah is 2.5yrs old and he is going through the terribly horrible 2 yr old stage that Bailey skipped!

These two combined is like a tornado at 6am!

I have noticed Bailey is really loud and all of a sudden into action heros. I used to be able to put the telly on and he would sit and watch.....does not work anymore!

Maybe its the moon......??????? lol

xxxxx

[Vixstar]

Spoke to the boys preschool teacher yesterday and asked he how to deal with Noah and his tanties and s. stirring and also Bailey and his massive angry tanties. I did read in Raising Boys around this age he will double his level of testosterone which is a part of the problem but Noah is the other half of Baileys problem. He steals toys off Bailey and then runs off and even hides between my legs when Bailey runs after him! The advice she gave us was to -
~ Give Noah more words to use ie when he steals from Bailey, stop him and explain he needs to ask Bailey to play or to share and he needs to accept what bailey says.
~ Give Bailey an hour a week with myself and an hour a week with DH. This can be when DH goes to Bunnings or I take to dog for a walk etc.
~ When Bailey starts to 'explode' I need to take him aside and ask him what he is feeling.
~ Explain to Bailey why Noah does what he does and why Alannah is crying and to reassure him that it is okay for Alannah to cry because she is wet, tired, hungry etc (Thanks to some inlaws he gets rather anxious about Alannah)
~ Get physical with Noah ie more excercise which i had already decided was a problem. I phoned Kindergym on Friday last week.~ Get physical with Bailey so he can blow off this surge of hormones / anxiety etc
~ Reduce the yelling at the boys as this is just attention even if it is negative attention...like a puppy basically! That has been easy for yesterday and today a I have almost no voice from this virus.


Hope that helps! Just have to keep DH and I on the same page now.

xxxxx

[BeautifulMadness]

My son who is 4 dec 8th has be the biggest attidue on him its like dealing with a teenager...i ignore it and untill he calms down then i shall speak to him....but to be honest think it goes in one ear and out the other

[Rach75]

well looks like we are all going thru the same thing

time outs dont work here

I just lost it big time and spanked him he is now in his room and till he can stop he isn't coming out