Ok so DD is really tired. Won't allow me to bf her to sleep, or rock her or walk her. Just chucks tantrums when I try.
So now I have just put her in her cot and sat next to her while she plays around with her soft toys..
Left the room, eventually she started crying. Not a real cry, the fake "I want attention" cry that she has mastered this week.
I went in and tickled her with her favourite toy and she laughed, and then I left again.
She is now doing about 1min of fake crying, followed by nothing, 1min of fke crying, silence, etc.
I have no idea what I'm meant to be doing. If I pick her up she will just throw her head back and scream, there is NO way I can put her to sleep myself, it's like she's become immune to my techniques.
She's quiet now, I think she's playing.
What is this??
Do I just leave her?
I feel weird doing this.
Sounds like you're both in a bit of a mess right now. Only you can know if your daughter needs you there or is ok on her own - I don't know that anyone else can really answer your question.
Are you getting any respite or time off?
If she's happy on her own, then it just means she needs some time out to herself and that's fine.
I remember at 11mths my DD got a bit difficult to settle for a while and she all of a sudden wouldn't fall asleep on the boob anymore from then on!!! I thought "oh no how will I ever get her to sleep from now on?" LOL!!! that's when I started lying with her to get her to sleep. and I still do for her day time nap.
sounds like it's just one of those days for you. Head outside for some sunshine and spend 30mins with her outside playing then try again after that perhaps? Sometimes that helps.
And no hun ... I think CIO is when you have left her screaming REALLY loudly and uncontrollably and not going into her....that's CIO.
Ok she started to sound genuinely upset, so I picked her up and she let me bf her to sleep. Yay.
I have no idea what to start doing to try and change this terrible cycle.
I'm really just not coping suddenly. All this sleep deprivation has caught up to me. Last night, after being awake dealing with DD for 3 hours, I just put her in her cot and started bawling. DH woke up and told me to "stop crying you stupid woman."
I wish he would just help me once in a while.
During the day DD is constantly tired,and I'm so dazed and zombie like that I can't even play with her properly.
This sleep problem is destroying everything.
At that age, DD's sleep was DISGUSTING!!! she would wake frequently and was still night feeding ALOT at that stage which didn't help.
If it helps at all, I always found that whenever sleep got REALLY bad in our house, it would be followed by good sleep. So just think it won't always be like this..... and those 'dazed and zombie' states you're talking about, I think that is just being a Mum in general isn't it!!! It's hard work and very tiring at times.
Have a sleep when she does. Off you go and have a sleep now... I'm taking my own advice and lying down now while I can before DD wakes!
Your DH needs a kick in the bum
Sleep deprivation is a killer and you need help with this. Help might be doing something about your DD's sleep (sometimes these things work, sometimes they don't) or it might be getting help for yourself and spreading the load.
Do you get to sleep in on your DH's day off? Does anyone in your family come and watch your DD during the week so you can have a catchup nap?
Sounds like things are coming to a head for you. How many sleeps does she have in the day? Maybe she is transitioning to one less?
Will she sleep in the pram or in a sling? Or even in the car? Sometimes, its easier just to get them to have a sleep somewhere else besides their bed...
I also used to breastfeed DD IN the sling at one point, so she would concentrate and have the feed, and then put her down.
we all understand. And I second kicking your DH in the bum...people need hugs and support when they cry...babies AND and their mums!
I think she definitely might be trainsitioning to one day sleep instead of two.
My main issue is her night wakings. Far too many. It's gone on for too long.
I feel like I'm in a vicious cycle, coz I'm too tired at night's to try any new settling methods etc, I just need to do the fastest thing coz I already only get a couple of hours a night.
Can you spend a week just getting as much sleep as you can to reenergise before you try something to make changes? If you lie down during the day, can you both get some sleep?
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Am I doing CIO method right now??
sounds like it's just one of those days for you. Head outside for some sunshine and spend 30mins with her outside playing then try again after that perhaps? Sometimes that helps.
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